Just a quick question...please answer
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Just a quick question...please answer
| Fri, 07-25-2003 - 2:07pm |
Ok DH and I drink about 2 or 3 times a month (did for me). I asked him today if he wouldn't drink once I got pg so that when we are at social functions I won't feel left out and we can both go home sober (he doesn't drink enough to get drunk or anything). He said he wasn't sure if it's something he could do. Also we have poker nights at our house about once a month, and I mentioned not drinking or drinking a non-alcoholic beer (b/c his argument was he liked beer when he played poker), he wasn't sure about that either. Am I being crazy here? (I am very emotional lately b/c it's my first month off bcp and AF should be visiting this weekend) I could be acting unreasonable but I just really feel that I'm not. Please help...any suggestions or comments! Thanks in advance!
Kelly
Kelly

I've quit drinking while TTC, but my DH does continue to drink socially. It really doesn't bother me. I've actually told him that I'm fine with him drinking... and we even joke that he's got a ready-made DD for now!
BUT... if this is really bothering you, you need to talk to your DH. He should understand your reasons why you don't want him to drink... do you feel "shut out" when you're the only one not drinking, so you want him to share this with you? I guess I didn't see your real reason for why you want him to quit. Talk to him - if it's really that big a deal, he should at least scale back or try to quit for a while.
Good luck!
Tami
Mommy to Anna 7.7.04 & Ben 11.19.06
Personally, I don't believe in DH having to live the same life as me while pg. However, other women do. It's really all up to the both of you. Good luck!
Christy
TTC2 C3 CD25 10DPO (but 3rd day of spotting. :(
Christy
BFd big sis for 14 mths. Hope to nurse Kyle even longer!

Good luck :-)
Kelly
Tami
Mommy to Anna 7.7.04 & Ben 11.19.06
I am right there with you. Something else you might mention to him....alcohol has been proven to effect sperm motility (how fast sperm move and if they swim in a straight direction) so while he doesn't drink that much anyway it should not be such a hard thing to give up. My DH and I feel the same way as you, this should be our experience not mine. Although, it is a tough call for couples to make. It sounds like you guys have a wonderful relationship and really see marriage as a team effort, that is a rare find. Hang in there, he might surprise you and decide to change his mind.
Logan
Many (((HUGS)))!!!!
Kelly