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| Thu, 03-27-2003 - 10:26pm |
I wish all you ladies the best of luck in your endeavors! Everyone here deserves to have everything they desire. I just want to say something that's been bothering me since I've been on this board: I think it's very insensitive for ladies who have ALREADY conceived to continue to post regularly on a board designed for ladies who are TRYING to conceive. I mean, for God's sake -- if we have to place warnings in our post subject that we're about to mention pregnancy or children because we don't want to upset anyone who is so sensitive about not being pregnant that they can't stand to read about someone else's previous pregnancy or their existing child(ren), then doesn't it go without saying that having someone whine about her morning sickness is a slap in the face? It's just rude, intentional or otherwise. I can't believe that I'm the only person who feels this way.
Best of luck to y'all...
Lily
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(((HUGS))) And I hope you will not take one persons opinion as the opinion of all.
Tara
P.S. I hope when my BFP ((finally)) comes I will still be welcome here as well.
Tara and my June bug! ;o)
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question a couple of days ago on the welcome board.. but I honestly don't remember.
And.. No.. I wasn't able to do my job for about 5 weeks. I DID check in every chance I had.. but at the library here.. we're only allowed 30 minutes.. which is just barely enough time to read down the board.. (the old format, that is..)
BUT.. Before losing the phone (and the computer problems)... and after we got things worked out... I've been here just about every day. I may not post as much as some people want.. but I'm here. And I do post. (I've been a bit leery of posting to some people because of what happened after the m/c in September... on the board.)
I, personally, was not able to participate in the new CL board.. because it was done
while I had no phone and bad computer problems. HOWEVER.. there are several women who
post here regularly who ARE cl's on other boards.. We all see and read the posts on our
boards.. and responses for these new boards were given by the cl's as to what they
thought would be usable.. and not usable for their boards..,etc... And... remember.. this
info was collected over the last several years, not just recently.
Hope you can understand where I'm coming from.
Jen
I have lurked here on and off enough to know that this board sees a post like this one oh, every few months. There's an uproar, people make attempts at making it more comfortable for everyone here, and it blows over. Don't leave over it. If you indicate in your header that there may be mention of pg/mc/children, etc...that's the person's opportunity to decide to read it or leave it. If they read it, they have no right to complain about what the post contains. You did your job.
-J
I am now on the November EC board and I often see posts about m/c. This is frightening when you see 2 or 3 a day. But I respect other people's feelings and understand that they need my support and they need to communicate their feelings.
Lily, I wish you the best and hope that you don't have to wait for a year to get your BFP. And I hope that when you get it, you don't take an HPT every day b/c you are so scared the positive will go away.
Mandy, TTC#1 11 months, EDD 11/26
I agree about the new format. I despise it as well and wonder how in the world ParentsPlace or IVillage expects their site to survive once we all leave. I am sad, though, that you felt the need to lash out as you said farewell. Please accept my apologies as I never intended to hurt anyone - but only to offer my support as often as I could and occasionally share my own concerns. Good luck to you and I hope you see a BFP very soon.
Eone
The day I found parents place when I was pregnant, I didn't know what the heck I was doing...I signed up on the WRONG expecting board (don't know how THAT happened..LOL!) and I went to read birthstories, and ended up reading the stillborn stories. I didn't think, "why would someone talk about that??" like I've seen MANY women post and go complain about it. NO...I thought, "what an aweful thing to have happen to a family," and I prayed right then and there and thanked God for the blessing inside me and Prayed for mothers going though this. I should have prayed for myself (but I was afraid to..wondering if it was selfish) because I ended up miscarrying. Before I could even post on the correct expecting board, I told PP that I was no longer PG, and they referred me to the PG loss board. THEY ACTUALLY spent the time to write to me and tell me they were sorry for my loss and told me about the m/c board. I will ALWAYS be thankful to PP for giving me that outlet.
I've been the woman who couldn't stand to LOOK at a pregnant women...the NERVE of her showing herself in public. I was EMBARRASED by my thoughts and feelings at that time, shortly after my m/c. I would have NEVER gone up to her and vented my IRRATIONAL thoughts (not abnormal, and common after a loss...and suffering from depression...BTW), and I don't see why people think it's okay to do so while hiding under an anonymous screen-name on the board.
I don't think I ever posted my vents about these situations, but I am today.
I need to say that I'm thankful to women talking about their pregnancies; complications, discomforts, elation, and all. It get's me excited about TTC and also makes me aware of things to look for, things to think about, what to expect, what to worry about, what not to worry about. Why would ANYONE want to get pregnant and NOT know what's going on with their body or what's going to happen. How would you even KNOW that you DO want to get pregnant without having a pregnant woman stop by and tell you how WONDERFUL (even though uncomfortable at times) it is to have a LIFE GROWING INSIDE YOU!?!?!
I just wonder how stupid/humbled these people feel when they end up having a miscarriage themselves after attacking another women for expressing her grief over one.
THERE...I've said my two cents...or two dollars, maybe..LOL!
(((HUGS))), Meghan WtoTTC#2
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