Leaving these boards w/ a comment...

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Thu, 03-27-2003 - 10:26pm
I can't stand this new board. I don't mind change, but ineptitude really bothers me. Did PP even try this format on a test group? I doubt it. My toddler could've designed a better program.

I wish all you ladies the best of luck in your endeavors! Everyone here deserves to have everything they desire. I just want to say something that's been bothering me since I've been on this board: I think it's very insensitive for ladies who have ALREADY conceived to continue to post regularly on a board designed for ladies who are TRYING to conceive. I mean, for God's sake -- if we have to place warnings in our post subject that we're about to mention pregnancy or children because we don't want to upset anyone who is so sensitive about not being pregnant that they can't stand to read about someone else's previous pregnancy or their existing child(ren), then doesn't it go without saying that having someone whine about her morning sickness is a slap in the face? It's just rude, intentional or otherwise. I can't believe that I'm the only person who feels this way.

Best of luck to y'all...

Lily

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Fri, 03-28-2003 - 5:40am
I Semi-Agree...ladies who are hanging out because they are nervous and in the "waiting" period is fine with me. Actually, I kind of like hearing about what they are experiencing so I know for future knowledge. Ladies like Tutter13 and Craftymouse, and there are more-have been SO helpful to me! But, as Lily said, COMPLAINING about anything having to do with pregnancy is just downright MEAN to do on this board...go somewhere else and complain because there are hundreds of women posting on this board and thousands more lurking that would give their legs to be going through the "problems" you are! Enough said-good luck this cycle ladies! ~danielle~
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Fri, 03-28-2003 - 6:50am
I agree that some people can have a way of "throwing" it in our faces about being pg, but for the most part anyone who has talked about morning sickness or any complaints pg related were usually asked by one of the other ttc people...they didn't just volunteer it.

I personally like having them around...some people have been here for a very long time and have developed "friendships." And I don't get offended, or feel bad, when people talk about pg, children, etc. I'm happy for them. But, I understand where this is coming from - it is a sensitive issue for a lot of people.

I would also like to say that if this was a "problem" for someone, why bring it up on your way out to start trouble? If you didn't like it you should have said something earlier...now all this does is makes those who have stayed feel bad and unwelcome and YOU won't even be here anymore! Shame on you!


Kelly

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Fri, 03-28-2003 - 7:58am
Well EXCUUUUUUUSE the *beep* out of me!!!!!! How rude can you possibly be. And who are you to say, I'm leaving, but this bothers me. Who cares what bothers you about the people here if you are leaving!!! You know, if I am not mistaken I have offered help to you in the past couple of months. Guess what?!?!? I'm pregnant! Did you mind my help? Did you mind my sympathies and suggestions, etc? I doubt it. I've learned a great deal from the family of people at this board. I've grown extremely close to a lot of people here, who are still TTC. I want to offer in return the help, knowledge and support that I received to those who shared it with me and those who are new and trying to learn as much as they can. Yes, I've mentioned how crummy I've felt at times, but that was always done in the secret garden, which is designated for those of us waiting to get through that crucial 1st trimester. Why do I hang out there? Two reasons: 1) I love the women here and promised I wouldn't just leave them. I have been valued as a friend by many here, and I'm not gonna let one person sho me out; and 2) with my first pregnancy I had 1st trimester bleeding. Unexplained as to why, but it's scary wondering if you are losing your baby or not. I chose the safety of the garden while I prayed through my 1st trimester this time. In any event, I am very saddened and offended by your post. I don't think the graduates that post have been anything but courteous, and that is something you are certainly not offering in return. I wish you all the best in your TTC journey and hope that you do see that BFP very soon. Take care and good luck to you.
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Fri, 03-28-2003 - 8:08am
Melissa, Please don't leave. I love that you are here and your advice is wonderful. Please don't go. I look forward to seeing your posts.

Hugs,

Denise

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Fri, 03-28-2003 - 8:11am
Oh Denise honey, you read my reply wrong - I'm not leaving, no way! Thanks for wanting me though, that was so caring of you to reply. No, I was just very hurt and offended by this post and just had to voice my feelings. I am not about to let one person, especially one who is leaving, make me go. Too many have asked me to stick around. I love it here. I love the ladies here. I'll never find another board that is as supporting and connected as this one. Thanks!
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Fri, 03-28-2003 - 8:11am
BYE BYE LILY, great exit! Nothing like stirring the pot before you leave. I wish you the best on your TTC journey.
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Fri, 03-28-2003 - 8:23am
See what happens when I post after just waking up and NOT wearing my glasses. Have a wonderful day,

Denise

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Fri, 03-28-2003 - 12:10pm
About posting while pregnant, I always thought it would be more insensitive to completely move on and forget about all the wonderful women here who helped me when I was TTC. This is my first pregnancy, and I've never been close to anyone while they were pregnant. So when I was TTC and wondering what to expect, the advice of others who had BTDT was extremely appreciated. The beginning of my pregnancy was much different than I expected: I had virtually no symptoms, felt like AF was on her way, and other things that tend to make those who are TTC think they're out for that cycle. In sharing that, I like to think I can give others a bit of hope. I know that when I was on this board and TTC, I loved to hear success stories, I loved to hear how the grads were doing, I needed something to remind me that it was possible to get pregnant and my turn would come. If all I ever heard about was people who hadn't yet been able to conceive, it would have been very discouraging. I read this board every single day, and if I see a post where my experience can be useful, I respond. I'm not still here to rub anything in anyone's face, I'm still here because I genuinely wantvery badly to see every single woman here get their BFP, and after everything this board did for me, I feel as though I'm returning a favor by sticking around and offering my support. I certainly hope there are others who feel the same way.

--Angi

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Fri, 03-28-2003 - 12:35pm
Lily,

I just wanted to say one thing. Yes. The boards WERE tested on real people.. the CL's.

We had our CL boards (we need other CLs' support, too) changed some weeks back.. and

we were able to help PP find and fix glitches.. amongst other things. (helping to

improve certain features)

Good luck to you.. hope you get your BFP soon.

Jen

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Fri, 03-28-2003 - 12:42pm
That was perfect!!

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