Making BDing fun again....

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Registered: 05-28-2009
Making BDing fun again....
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Wed, 02-29-2012 - 2:30am

Does anyone else find that BDing has started to become a chore. We are trying to BD every other day and every day around the days that I should be ovulating. I've stopped using FF for the last month for so because it was just becoming to overwhelming, I would sit and over analyze everything.

But now BDing has become a chore. It's rarely fun, and I just want it to be over and done with. Having a two year old doesn't help. I feel like we have to sneak around and BD so late so that DS doesn't hear or walk in. I'm not trying to be a Debbie downer I am just not sure how to make thing fun again.

Any ideas?

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Registered: 05-28-2009
Wed, 02-29-2012 - 8:09pm
We have a date night coming up on Saturday and my parents are taking DS over night. You are right, I am sure that he wouldn't hear us, it's just an irrational fear I have since DS sleeps in a bed, and can open his door. He doesn't wake up often at night maybe once if that.

I'll have to read the article above, and try some new things.

Thanks Ladies
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Registered: 02-10-2012
Wed, 02-29-2012 - 4:41pm
This has happened to me and my hubby before, it sucks :( I tried spicing it up by getting some new lingerie and we've done some naughty texts to each other. We tried to make it more about enjoying each other rather then about making a baby.

I doubt that your son would hear you. Is he still in a crib? How often does he wake up at night?
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Registered: 11-13-2008
Wed, 02-29-2012 - 1:57pm
That's not good when BDing is no longer fun :( I do have an article that has some ideas in it: http://www.ivillage.com/sex-demand-ruling-your-life-trying-conceive/6-a-144582

It's not easy to have the energy when you are trying to get in the mood late at night. Can you set the alarm before you son's normal time to get up and try to sneak some in? Have you tried doing a date night with just the two of you to work on reconnecting again? It's probably good that you stopped FF, it's hard to BD on a schedule, both of you probably feel stresses over it. I would also suggest not BDing every day if it's turning into a struggle. (((HUGS))