My husband says he wants me to stop taking BC. Is he ready for kids or is this a new turn on?

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Registered: 03-27-2011
My husband says he wants me to stop taking BC. Is he ready for kids or is this a new turn on?
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Tue, 03-13-2012 - 1:14pm

About two months ago my husband came home around midnight after he 'd been out with the guys and woke me up to let me know he was ready for kids and I could stop taking my birth control. He said the guys got to talking and they told him he wasn't getting any younger and no time would ever be "perfect" and he decided they were right. I kinda blew this off considering I was half asleep and he had been drinking a little. But the topic has come up several times since then with him asking me why I'm still taking my pills. What confuses me this topic always comes up when he's drowsy or during sex. Is this just a new turn on for him? During sex it obviously turns him on of the idea of him getting me pregnant. But its the times he ask me when he's just drowsy that confuses me as to whether not he's serious. Your probably wondering why I don't just ask him? Well at that the current moment both of our work schedules are hectic. When we do get to see each other we are usually just trying to wind down from work and soon have to go to bed. Its not a conversation I want to have around midnight when we have to be at work at 5:45 AM. So I'm waiting when we can really have a GOOD long talk. But since its driving me crazy I wanted to

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Registered: 03-27-2011

I'm not sure if some of the men he was with had kids but I do know he was with his boss who he has a sort of father/son relationship with. My husband was raised by a single mom and had no siblings(until he was in college) so in a way he is kinda oblivious to life events. For instance when we got married he had never seen or been to a traditional wedding and was completely clueless to what it entailed. So when he said he was ready for kids I wasn't sure if he knew he was ready or just knew that's what he was suppose to do lol. I currently work in a home improvement store in which I'm on my feet for 8 hours a day surrounded by dirt, paint fumes, etc. On top of this not being a place to work while pregnant the random hours I work would not allow me time to care for a child. This is something I'm not sure my husband has thought about. Also I was raised in a medical family so I like to be well educated and have things planned when I do something. So to say I'm on the fence yes...I would love to have kids but unlike my husbands "lets have kids right now!" attitude I'd like to do a little planning first LOL. I agree I will have to plan a talk its just really hard with my work hours. Hopefully an opportunity will arise soon. Thanks for the advice! :)

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Registered: 01-15-2008
It sounds like you need to schedule in a talk. Guys are usually pretty straightforward, so I think he's probably serious, particularly if he's raised it several times- after drinking and sober. It sounds like he's ready to start the conversation on TTC. Do his friends that he was out with have kids? It sounds like you're busy, but why not a weekend talk or sometime when you are both off from work? Good luck!

Are you ready to TTC? From your post, I wasn't sure if you are or just still on the fence. Sorry if you've already posted somewhere about that, but I missed it. I hope the conversation goes well for both of you.
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