Need advice about TTC & loss months
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| Mon, 05-18-2009 - 6:11pm |
My DH and I have decided to TTC #2 for us. This started last month when I was on pins and needles and instead AF decided to show a month early. I was truly hoping that we would be successful - I desperately want another baby and I'm already 30. I would like to have my subsequent baby and then have my tubes tied as being pg is really not good for my health. But alas, this month is a no go. If we decide to try again after AF leaves, it will put me with a due date around the same time as Nikki's due date.
For those that don't know, Nikki is my angel baby - due on 2/26/04, gave birth to her on 2/13/04, and held her as she passed just 36 hours later on 2/14/04. I've figured that with my cycle I would be due on 2/23/10 and since I went 10 days early with Kiera, it's not an unreasonable assumption that any future children would follow this trend. I know it may or may not be likely but it is a possibility.
Now I told DH I wanted to skip this month and possibly next month since I truly do not know if I could handle having another LO with dates anywhere near Nikki's. But now that I've thought about it, maybe I'm making too much out of this. I know alot of us have suffered a loss of some sort, be it miscarriage, stillbirth, or infant death, but for those actively TTC, did you skip over hurtful months that your losses occured or was the need to continue TTC so strong that it trumped those feelings? Since AF's visit is about half over I need to decide kinda quickly if I'm going to do this or not. Since I'm now debating with myself, I'm not really feeling one way or the other anymore and yet I was adament yesterday...
I hate hormones... Any advice would be great.
| Tue, 05-26-2009 - 11:45am |













