New to Board...Looking for Support

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Registered: 08-13-2003
New to Board...Looking for Support
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Wed, 08-13-2003 - 4:01pm
Hi all. I've been having something on my mind for awhile now and I just need some advice. I'm 21, SO is 26. We've been together for over a year and recently decided that I was going to go off BC and we would just see what happens. I'm in my junior year of college, I work full time and go to school at night full time. SO also has a stable full time job. I'm ready to have a baby and I know SO is too. Do you think it's selfish of me to want to have a baby while I'm still in school? I've thought about it alot and weighed all the possibilities and I still think that we are ready. But I need some opinions. Has anyone been in a similar situation? Thanks for all your help.

Hope
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Registered: 08-09-2003
Wed, 08-13-2003 - 4:07pm
Welcome Hope,

I'm new to the boards, too. I am in a similiar situation. I'm in school and TTC #1. The way I see it, I can "slow down" and take the time to be at home with a new baby while I'm in school much more easily than I could working full time. My schedule is a lot more flexible as a student and I can do a lot of work at home. You might be able to say the same, though I would suggest dropping the full time night work, especially if DH has a stable job. Of course, at the rate I'm going I'll be out of school before I get pg! GL to you!

Cristina
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Registered: 07-02-2003
Wed, 08-13-2003 - 4:10pm
Welcome to the board, Hope! Everyone is different in their decision to TTC. If you are confident in your decision then it shouldn't matter how others feel about it- they are not in your shoes. If this is what you are deciding, we are here for you! GL and I hope your TTC journey is a short and sweet one!

(((((((HUGS))))))

Tara
 

 Tara~ co-cl of Pregnant after TTC

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Registered: 06-19-2003
Wed, 08-13-2003 - 4:55pm
Hope,

Hello, and welcome to the board. Your post hits home with me. I’m 23 and in my second year of college. I don’t think it’s selfish to want to have kids before you finish school. School hours are more flexible then job hours. Also if you and your SO are ready then go for it. It’s a personal decision to have kids. Good luck to you!

Melony

TTC #1 C3 cd15

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Registered: 08-13-2003
Wed, 08-13-2003 - 5:28pm
Thank you all for your help. It's so nice to have somewhere to go where people don't judge, but rather, lend their advice. I appreciate the opinions. Keep in touch please, and I'll be sure to do the same.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 08-13-2003 - 5:29pm
I don't know if anyone is ever so called "ready to have a child". If you love each other and want to spend the rest of your lifes with each other than I would say your ready. I wish you all the luck, I think only you two can answer that but I don't think your selfish. Trust me having a baby is not selfish, all your time and energy is for them.

Hugs

Allison