New here...

Everyone is different. It took us a few cycles after coming off the pill to conceive dd but this time around we're at 14 cycles & still nothing. I have a friend who ttc for 18 months & then got pg the first cycle they ttc #2.

As for the irregular cycles, if you want to pinpoint your fertile window you should start charting cm & try opk's to help narrow it down. I really recommend bbt temping too to get more familiar with your cycles. If you don't want to do that, then I guess you could try bd'ing every other day & hope for the best.

Did you guys ever have any testing done when you were ttc the first time?