New here and need some advice........

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Registered: 09-11-2003
New here and need some advice........
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Thu, 09-11-2003 - 1:00pm
My DH and I have been ttc #3. Problem is I think I may have put to much pressure on him. I feel really bad and I am not trying to obsess but when the time is right I want to be ready to go. OK Here is what happened. I took opk and it came out positive yesterday - so last night I showed it to my husband and explained that the time was right and that we needed to do something last night. Well we tried but was unsuccessful if you know what I mean. So now I am frustrated and he is beating himself up over it. Is there still a chance for us to do this tonight if we try again. He says he wants to try again and obviously so do I. Thing is yesterday was the only opk test (and last one I had) I took so I do not know if I am still ready to go or if that was the tail end of my O time. I still feel very crampy. Can someone help me sort this out and maybe some advice on how not to scare away my husband!! (My lmp was on 8-26 and I have a 28 day cycle)

Thank you so much,

Jennifer

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Registered: 04-04-2003
Thu, 09-11-2003 - 1:17pm
Hi Jennifer! I would still try again tonight, you never know. If you're still feeling crampy that sounds like you might still be o-ing.

As for you husband, you can try to make it more about you two being intimate, rather than just making a baby. I know it can be hard at times. I feel guilty sometimes for just thinking about conceiving, rather than m/l to my husband. You just have to figure out how to put yourself in that mind-frame, and your husband too. Does that make any sense?

HTH!

Sheena

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Registered: 09-11-2003
Thu, 09-11-2003 - 1:24pm
You make perfect sense, it's just trying to get to that point ya know? I appreciate your help!

Thanks,

Jennifer