No drinking without turning heads
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| Wed, 10-15-2003 - 2:21pm |
I need your help again on something – I’m sure I’m just making a big deal about nothing.
We haven’t told anyone that we’re TTC – right now I’m 14DPO and really hoping for a BFP. Anyway…Friday night is girls’ night. I haven’t gone out with these girls in a few months (since we started TTC). Well, the night was originally just us going out to dinner. Now it’s meeting a one girl’s hours for a birthday toast, then going out to dinner and then going out for drinks.
What do I do about the whole not drinking thing!?! I know for most people it’s not a big deal – but I’m always the one who brings the champagne or wine! Don’t think bad of me, I don’t imbibe too much, but I do enjoy a glass or 2 of wine with dinner (well, I did as of a few months ago) and every time I don’t drink I get the “what, do you have a bun in the oven?” comment from someone.
So, do I say that I’m on antibiotics (I was a few weeks ago – not too much of a stretch), just say that I’m trying to lose a few pounds (but then I should order a salad to keep up the ruse) or just laugh it off when the comment comes up without an explanation? I’m just so afraid that my face will give something away. (BTW – this group is very competitive with the whole marriage/baby stuff and I’m just not ready to talk about it with them)
Any advice would be great.
Thanks!
H.
TTC#1, C1, CD35, 14DPO
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Amber
Some suggestions - although it sounds like you've got some good ploys lined up already!
You could say - and go into detail as if it's a legit. story about how you're annoyed with it etc. - that you've got a urinary tract infection (which I think I HAVE right now and will be going on antibiotics!) That would give them something to believe and not nag you for more details...OR you could say that you and dh went out last night and you have a little hangover and will be taking it slow.
Also, you *could* have one drink and just really nurse it the whole time...or maybe get a bottle of beer (darker bottle preferably - like a Sam Adams or a Bass) and either A: only drink a little of it or B: drink none at all and empty it out in the bathroom and fill it up with water - nobody would notice since the bottle is dark. AND if they continue to check to see if you're still on the same beer or want another round, you could say that you got a new one for yourself on your way to the bathroom (better to be accused of being cheap than to have to go through the hassle of avoiding the 'ttc' talk right?!)
Hope this helps!!!
I am also TTC, and am meeting a friend after work for happy hour, and I am sitting here wondering the exact same thing, what am I going to say when my usually "festive" self is suddenly sipping club soda. My solution is: The new South Beach Diet does not allow alcoholic beverages during the first phase. Just tell your girlfriends you are on a new diet and are cutting out alcohol for a few weeks. You don't have to tell them which one, (unless you are prepared for them to ask why you still eat carbs!), just say it's a health decision.
GOOD LUCK!
I think the best thing is to just laugh it off.
Hope this helps
Anita
Just my opinion.
Julie
Hope you get that BFP! Your chart looks great!
Vicki
Even my doctor said one or two drinks here and there is I'm trying is not a horrible thing. You don't want to overindulge but go have a few and have a good time.
If you think anyone will ask questions you could always nurse the drinks & tell them your not feeling well :):)
Kathy
TTC#1, C#10, CD#15
It good to know that I'm not the only one that has these issues. So this is what I'm thinking...show up late for the birthday toast so I don't have time for one! Offer to drive and use the antibiotics thing (too funny about the UTI - that's what I had a few weeks back!) if it comes up at dinner or later. My drink of choice is always wine and that's hard to "fake" so I'll pass on that one.
I'm thinking today that I "really" am so I don't want to risk the alcohol. Besides, I've already given up the caffeine, hair color (switched to highlights) and artificial sweeteners so it's seems a little contridictory to then have the alcohol - ya know?
Thanks again, I feel better now.
--H.