Is an orgasm MANDATORY?

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Registered: 10-01-2003
Is an orgasm MANDATORY?
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Mon, 10-06-2003 - 1:38pm
OK girls, I am just going to tell you all straight...I'VE only had 1 orgasm in my 4 years with my husband (SHHHHH!) and the time I DID have one, I got preggo with my first daughter...for the rest of the months, I have not had an Orgasm OR gotten preggo again...very frustrated. It is required to orgasm to get preggo? I heard that it is because it helps the cervix dip into the pool of sperm better...grrrr...frustrated...

Any advice?? Tried EVERYTHING (toys, movies, "sex vacations", etc)

Love, Abbey

You are my sunshine, my only sunshine

Mommy to Isabel Grace b/s at 40 weeks (6/23/03)

http://www.babiesonline.com/babies/i/isabelgrace/

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Registered: 07-02-2003
Mon, 10-06-2003 - 1:45pm
Two words, pocket rocket....... ;) Hints, maybe use it when you are alone first if you are embarssed to use it with the hubby.

I won't jump on my soapbox about telling children/teens masterbation is BAD/DIRTY/ETC and then wondering why we can't have an orgasm as an adult---well because its bad/dirty/etc of course ;) /I lied, steps down from soapbox/

Good luck, I'm sure your PG/Orgasm was just a con-inki-dink

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Registered: 04-10-2003
Mon, 10-06-2003 - 1:50pm
I'll be 10 weeks pregnant tomorrow and you sound just like me, except this is my 1st child. I am not an orgasming kind of woman and I got pregnant C2. I don't think it makes an ounce of difference. To be sure though, I did Kegels excecises after we did it and put a pillow under my bum for 10 minutes!

GL to you sweetie!

~Shawn

EDD 5/5/04

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 10-06-2003 - 2:06pm
Second-ing the vote for a vibrator! Try it yourself alone, get used to it...relllaxxxxx...it may take soem practice, but maybe it will work! I have NEVER had an O during sex, FYI.

And no, you don't need to orgasm to get PG!

Good luck!

Kim

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Registered: 05-18-2003
Mon, 10-06-2003 - 2:20pm

I have heard that it is good to have an orgasm but bad to do kegels. I've read that Kegels are suppose to help eliminate sperm but an orgasm will help bring the sperm up into the cervix???


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Registered: 04-10-2003
Mon, 10-06-2003 - 2:25pm
Chrissy,

See, it just goes to show you there are sooooooo many differnet "theories" and "opinions" out there. All I know is I did kegels after sex (with no O) and I got pregnant the 2nd month. It worked for me but it might not work for everyone. The ONLY thing I did different the month I got pregnant was take Robitussin which helped increase my CM.


~Shawn

9w6d

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Registered: 05-18-2003
Mon, 10-06-2003 - 2:33pm

Hmmm...I might have to give it a try and see what happens if things don't pan out this month :)


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Registered: 04-10-2003
Mon, 10-06-2003 - 4:26pm
Oh, I hope you don't have to try it next month!!!!!!!!!!

**********++++++++++++ vibes ************************** coming your way!!!

~Shawn