People can be SO rude/clueless! Grrr!
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| Wed, 07-30-2003 - 4:24pm |
So there I am at the hospital...scared...wondering what will happen if there is a clot...wondering if I'll have to stop taking progesterone and the fact that without it I probably would not get pregnant...my mind was just racing and I was afraid.
Then the PREGNANT ultrasound tech comes to get me. While she was doing the ultrasound, she proceeded to tell me how being pregnant is not all that it is cracked up to be...that she feels bad a lot and it is not fun. She even told me she gets mad at the baby for moving and wishes it would never move again. Sorry...I just couldn't relate.
Then she asked me how old I am...I told her 36. She said she is 33 and this is her first baby. I made a comment about how we both waited longer than most people. She actually said..."yeah...but YOU waited too long. At least I started in time to be able to get help in case I can't get pregnant." THEN she said that I probably only had a couple of years, and that is pushing it because I'm already considered high risk for pregnancy because I'm over 35...and that I should not have waited so long. I honestly did not know what to say.
AND THEN...she talked about her best friend who can't get pregnant because she is overweight...and said maybe that is MY problem... She said "YOu know...if you were thinner you'd probably have an easier time getting pregnant...If it were important to you, seems like you'd lose some weight." Well...I JUST lost 40 pounds in the last 6 months!!! Yes...I have a bit more to go...but I think I've made a lot of progress.
I was SO upset...I just wanted to cry...but I would not let myself in front of her...saved it up for you guys! *sniff*
I mean...I was already scared enough about the whole reason I was there...I really did not need that from her.
Okay...I feel better now...I just can't believe how thoughtless people can be sometimes!
And now...I'm waiting to hear from the doc to see if I have a blood clot and if I can keep taking the progesterone...
Thanks for listening...
Anne
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(((hugs Anne))))
Kathy
You just keep trying and praying and I promise you everything will work out. I know it is so hard to tell yourself that sometimes, but really that is all you can do. I have been trying for 7 months with no luck, but I know that when it is time God will bless me with a little one, whether its my own or adopted. And if you trust, then He will do the same for you. Next time you see that awful woman, you just keep a smile on your face and let her know that she cant get you down because you can handle whatever life throws your wasy, whether she can or not. Good luck!
Katie
Married to highschool sweetheart since 8-12-02
I can not believe that she said those things to you! Boy I tell you you should call and complain. She had no right to say anything like that. If that hospital is in PA I would go down there and punch her lights out for you. I can't believe that people can be so insensitive like that. Wow what a B*cth.
On another note. God has a special plan for all of us. I am sure that your special day will be here soon. My Aunt who was 37 just had her first child. My mom found out about my little brother at 36. (((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))) and +++++++++++thoughts for you.
Keep us posted!
Jen
That is just awful treatment you received. I really wonder what goes through some people's minds. Please don't let her get you down. Those are just her stupid opinions, and there's no need to stress yourself out even more by worrying about them.
((((HUGS))))
Leslie
((((((((((((BIG HUGS)))))))))))))))))
Some people are sooooooo very thoughtless!! I cannot believe that she actually said those things to you. There is absolutely NO EXCUSE for that! PLEASE do not take anything she said to heart. She is WAY off base! I am steaming on your behalf ~ I have written quite a few lines & had to erase them, as it displays my very unladylike side. :) She obviously has issues of her own, if she were talking that way about a friend of hers. Sounds like she doesn't have respect for others and is only interested in herslf.
Please let us know how your leg is!! I hope that it is not a clot & nothing serious (That way you won't ever see that nasty lady again!)I am sending ~~~~ Smooth Flowing ~~~~~~ vibes your way.
Hang in there chickie~
Teera
I am so sorry for the way she treated you. You should speak to her supervisor or perhaps write a letter - her comments were inexcusable. Please let us know how your leg is - I will keep you in my prayers. I am sure all will work out ok.
Jennifer
TTC#1 C4 CD17 3/4DPO
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Don't worry -- God works in mysterious ways and people MUCH older than you have sailed through pregnancies without any trouble at all. I'm SURE it'll happen for you. How dare she suggest you're not doing all you can when you're on a board like this giving and getting information everyday!
She's cruel. Don't give her another thought -- she's not worth it. Anyone who would say they wished their baby would stop moving is just sick and weird.
I hope everything goes okay for you health-wise. I hope it's not a clot, and if it is that it can be treated quickly and simply.
My thoughts and prayers are with you!
(((HUGS)))
Kristin
TTC #1
I am so sorry you had to go through that. I want to say maybe she was having a bad day, but that would only excuse one or maybe two rude comments. That is just really sad that someone who, like myself, is in a service position could be so uncaring. I hope she realizes her problems and can deal with them. I really hope everything is ok with you. Don't listen to anything she said.
You really should report this girl. Not only to the hospital where you got your test but also to your doctors office. Sometimes a comment from their office to the right person will take matters a little more serious than from a "customer". I hope your doctor is incensed about this as you and the rest of us are for you.
Please let us know about your leg and your progesterone progress.
On a side note: This is my 1st day to this board. I am TTC #3 at 35 with possible progesterone problems and believe in God. I am so surprised and happy to see some mature ladies on this board. And the overwhelming support and religious beliefs stated are incredible. I am so glad I have found you all to support me through this roller coaster ride.
Sending you tons of hugs and prayers!
Melinda
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