People can be SO rude/clueless! Grrr!
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| Wed, 07-30-2003 - 4:24pm |
So there I am at the hospital...scared...wondering what will happen if there is a clot...wondering if I'll have to stop taking progesterone and the fact that without it I probably would not get pregnant...my mind was just racing and I was afraid.
Then the PREGNANT ultrasound tech comes to get me. While she was doing the ultrasound, she proceeded to tell me how being pregnant is not all that it is cracked up to be...that she feels bad a lot and it is not fun. She even told me she gets mad at the baby for moving and wishes it would never move again. Sorry...I just couldn't relate.
Then she asked me how old I am...I told her 36. She said she is 33 and this is her first baby. I made a comment about how we both waited longer than most people. She actually said..."yeah...but YOU waited too long. At least I started in time to be able to get help in case I can't get pregnant." THEN she said that I probably only had a couple of years, and that is pushing it because I'm already considered high risk for pregnancy because I'm over 35...and that I should not have waited so long. I honestly did not know what to say.
AND THEN...she talked about her best friend who can't get pregnant because she is overweight...and said maybe that is MY problem... She said "YOu know...if you were thinner you'd probably have an easier time getting pregnant...If it were important to you, seems like you'd lose some weight." Well...I JUST lost 40 pounds in the last 6 months!!! Yes...I have a bit more to go...but I think I've made a lot of progress.
I was SO upset...I just wanted to cry...but I would not let myself in front of her...saved it up for you guys! *sniff*
I mean...I was already scared enough about the whole reason I was there...I really did not need that from her.
Okay...I feel better now...I just can't believe how thoughtless people can be sometimes!
And now...I'm waiting to hear from the doc to see if I have a blood clot and if I can keep taking the progesterone...
Thanks for listening...
Anne
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Jenn
I will call my doctor's office tomorrow and tell them about it...I need to wait until I'm feeling a bit less emotional.
You all are right...that woman just has her own problems. Maybe she just does not realize how stressful all this TTC business is...she of course told me that she didn't have to "try" for her baby.
I'm feeling so much better now...I just was feeling really emotional because on top of her rude comments, I was SO terrified that this problem could mean that I would never be able to have a baby. But like DH says...she is just some woman who runs a machine at the hospital that I will probably never see again. That is not even the hospital I would usually use...My doc just sent me there from his office because it was the closest one to his office. And this was my family doc...not my OB/GYN...who does not even use that hospital.
I am just going to trust God and have faith that things will be okay and that I WILL have a baby someday! Who knows...maybe I'm already PG...I'm 8dpo!
Thank you all, again...
(((hugs)))
Anne
Anne - Proud Mommy to Rachel Elizabeth!
I cannot believe that! She wishes the baby WOULDN'T move????!!! Yeah right, once that baby stops moving, watch her run to the hospital for an u/s to make sure it is still alive. Feeling the baby move is the most wonderful feeling in the world!! I would give anything for that right now! Every single thing she said to you was completely uncalled for. She had no right to tell you that you are too old, or overweight. And congrats on losing 60lbs!! You should be proud of yourself! I'm sorry you had to listen to such bull**it. Don't even think about what she said b/c she was full of CRAP! Big talkers like that aren't worth even thinking about. Oh, I really hope you are okay and feeling better, Anne. Big ((((((hugs)))))) to you!
Love
Stacy
And I just read in a book on pregnancy over 35 that said it's not true that every over-35 pregnancy is high risk - that if you're in good general health, your pregnancy should be considered as normal as everyone else's. My sister had her last two children at ages 37 and 39, and she may not be done yet. I myself am 37 and TTC #1, and I'm full of optimism for myself, and for you, too.
Big congratulations on your weight loss! I lost 35 pounds last year - I know how hard it is and you should be very proud of yourself!
Steph
TTC#1
I just read something close to this on another board. Here's the links
The first one explains what happened
http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/message.asp?webtag=iv-ppclomid&msg=22385.1
The last one explains what happened next
http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/message.asp?webtag=iv-ppclomid&msg=22397.1&ctx=0
Someone replied that they had written a letter to the dr's office and the person they were complaining about got it and threw it away before the dr or anyone else could read it.
I'm so sorry you had to deal with such an ignorant, unworthy, and clueless bitch (sorry for the language).
(((((HUGS)))))
Shannon
((((((( Huge, Big, Humongous, Hugs )))))))) to you !!!!!!! Sounds like all of us need to take a trip to that hospital and just slap the SH*T out that B*TCH for you. What the H*LL was she thinking, obviously , not about your feelings!!!!! That really makes me angry when people are just so insensitive to other's feeling. I'm so proud of you for keeping you composure in front of her. I probably would've been a babbling fool. I can get very emotional at times. Or either I would have been so shocked and infuriated at what she said, I would have laid in to her a$$ right then and there, not physically, but definitely verbally. I believe I would've asked for someone else to take the U/S.
But I can definitely understand why "what" she said upsets you and is also a concern as well for me. I'm right there with ya Hun! ( to the exact day as a matter of fact )We already know that we are ( let's say more mature ) and I am as well overweight, but we don't need people like that rubbing it in our faces , do we ?!?!? We already know that.
I hate that you had to go through that today on top of everything else. I hope you don't have a clot and that every is ok. I'm pulling for you!!! Don't let today bother you. Your DH loves you, we love you, just the way you are, and we all know how hard you are "working" to make this happen. That--- &*^$*(^^)(*^) woman doesn't know a thing about you. Take care of yourself and let us know how your test come back.
GL to you!!!!! and don't worry!!!!!
~Lisa O~
Sending you good thoughts,
Sarah
My leg is okay! No blood clot...probably just a strained muscle from all the BDing (blush).... I'm just supposed to watch it and call if there is more swelling/pain.
I should not have let that woman get to me like that...but sometimes it is hard when someone is verbalizing my deepest fears...that I waited too long. Or I still have not lost enough weight to conceive, much less have a healthy pregnancy. BUT...My doctor seems to think I'm going to do great...and she is happy with my weight loss and eating habits...and I just need to concentrate on that. LOTS of women over 35...overweight women over 35 have perfectly healthy pregnancies!
Thanks again for all of your kind words! This is such a great board! It is so nice to have you all to "talk" to...
(((hugs))))
Anne
TTC#1, C4, 8dpo
Anne - Proud Mommy to Rachel Elizabeth!
Perfect IDIOTS - insensitive BRUTES....thats what these kind of people are. Forget it, Anne. These kinds of people will never learn and we can only tell ourselves and thank God for being as sensitive & understanding as we are.
Heres a ton of HUGS and love and hope u feel better soon.
Love
Priya
((((((((((BIG HUG))))))))))))
There's a quote that says: "you better shut your mouth and let people wonder if you are an idiot than talk and let people be sure that you ARE an idiot". That applies perfectly for that heartless woman. There's no excuse for what she did, she has no right to say those things to anyone.
Keep in your mind that SHE and only SHE thinks like that, not you, not none of us.
You'll get your baby, Anne. Trust in yourself.
love,
Marcia
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