Positive Emotions Can Help You Conceive

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Positive Emotions Can Help You Conceive
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Wed, 07-23-2003 - 3:25am
Hi Ladies,

I'd like to share with you some words from the book DH gave me: "Getting Pregnant, What you need to know right now".


"HOW POSITIVE EMOTIONS CAN HELP YOU CONCEIVE

One of the most interesting theories concerning fertility focuses on the benefits of positive emotions for couples trying to conveive. In much the same way that negative emotions can inhibit reprodution, positive thoughts and strong mental images of a happy, healthy pregnancy can increase your ability to conceive.

(...) For this reason, I strongly advise you to look forward to not only getting pregnant, but being pregnant. To achive a positive state of mind, try the following suggestions in the months and weeks before your target conception date.

1. Enjoy your pregnancy preparations. The time you spend getting ready to get pregnant should be joyful, even though you may be working hard to achive your goals. Feel positive about what you are doing and know in your heart that each step you take is bringing you that much closer to giving birth to a healthy, beautiful baby.

2. Feel positive about making changes. Don't dwel on negative feelings of deprivation, even if you have to give up lifelongs habits, like cigarettes or caffeine.

3. Relax about your pregnancy. Don't ge uptight if you aren't accomplishing your goals right on the schedule. Pregnancy preparations is not a race or a competition, just a method of helping you conceive a healthy child. It's something you can enjoy, and at your own pace.

4. Become dedicated to having a baby. Don't let the desire to have a baby run your life, but do feel your commitment deep inside you and feel good about it.

5. Eliminate stress as much as possible. Don't worry about your pregnancy or your ability to conceive. Feel relaxed about not only getting pregnant but being pregnant.

6. Think about the joys of parenthood. Concentrate in your happiness about being a parent, and believe that your child will be happy, healthy, and strong.

7. Feel your fertility. Several times a day close your eyes for a few moments and feel the power within you to create a wonderful, beautiful baby. Feel your body working for you and begin to imagine a child growing inside you.

8. Think about being in love and not just about making babies. Never forget the role that love, and not just sex, has in conception. Focus on the love that you and your partner share.

9. Believe in yourself. If you embrace only one positive thought in the months before getting pregnant, let it be a belief in yourself and your ability to conceive and deliver a healthy baby.

10. Believe you can make a diference, and what you do, say, think and feel are as important as any doctor's diagnosis. Understand that sometimes what you feel in your heart can correctly contradict even the most learned medical opinion.

...most of all, believe in what you're doing and your ability to make positive things to happen in your life, including pregnancy. You deserve the joy of parenthood. It can and will be yours! Good luck. (...)"

(from Getting Pregnant - Lauersen & Bouchexz)


I hope it can help you, ladies. I always get so kind support here that i thought it would be a good idea to share thoses nice positive advices with you all.

Good luck!

Márcia

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Wed, 07-23-2003 - 3:36am
Hi Marcia

Thank you very much for this.....I think I should print this out and read it every day

:-) It will help me look at things positively.....

Thank u....

Priya

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Wed, 07-23-2003 - 7:59am
Thank you for sharing such a positive excerpt for us...i know it probably took a long time to write all of that, but I really appreciated it because I forget about the joys of trying...I'm always so annoyed that it hasn't happened yet. Thank you again, and good luck to you!

Danielle

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Wed, 07-23-2003 - 8:35am
Marcia,

Good morning. I just read your message and it couldn't have come a better time. AF arrived this morning after a very emotional month of TTC. I really appreciate your posting and will print it out - to read over and over. Thank you. ~Cher TTC#1~

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Wed, 07-23-2003 - 8:57am
Márcia,

Thanks for the post! I really believe that staying positive can have a great effect on ones body. The list will be a great reminder when I'm feeling negative.

Goodluck to you!

Chrissy

TTC#1, c2, cd23

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Wed, 07-23-2003 - 11:13am
Priya, Danielle, Cher and Chrissy,

I'm pleased you liked it!

I know how difficult is to keep your chin up sometimes and I hope that that list help us to keep going.

love,

Márcia

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Wed, 07-23-2003 - 11:20am
Thanks for this! I'm a control freak and am starting to realize, that I can't plan a baby, it'll happen when it happens. I really enjoyed the recommendations in the book your DH gave you. It gives good advice to stressed-out, control freaks like me. I need to settle down and enjoy this time. I've been treating it like a military operation!

Also, thanks for typing everything out! It must have taken a long time.

Good luck to everyone. . . BFP vibes to all!!

Cat

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Wed, 07-23-2003 - 1:32pm
Thank you soooo much for shring this! It really made my day!

Teera

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Thu, 07-24-2003 - 6:55am
Hi Cat,

I'm exactly like you, completely control freak. I want my things organized all the time and I feel frustrated very often when thing don't go right... All the time i need to read this list to settle down.

I don't mind typing when it can help people. :)

Good luck to you too!

Márcia

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Thu, 07-24-2003 - 8:42am
WOW, thank you so much for that, I am going to print that out and read it when I am feeling down. My best friend is proof of that, she was incredibly negative about her ability to conceive right from before they started trying, and ended up having to go see fertility specialists and going on Clomid, etc. She found out her DH has low sperm count and mobility and that one of her tubes is blocked and she had PCOS. But I just found out on the weekend that she is about 6 weeks PG. But now she is really negative that she'll miscarry. I am going to show her your article!! Thank you again!!