Semen analysis anxiety - HELP!

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Registered: 06-04-2003
Semen analysis anxiety - HELP!
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Thu, 09-11-2003 - 3:23pm
Ladies,

I don't usually write in here, but just read. But this time I feel I can really use your help - and its not even for me. My husband is about to go tomorrow for a semen analysis for the first time. We are currently at the beginning of the process of diagnosis in an infertility clinic. Part of it is giving semen as you surely know. My husband is experiencing serious anxiety about this. The embarrassments that he may experience, the stress of maybe not performing is killing him. He can't sleep for a week now and he keeps thinking about this ALL the time. He is really suffering. I want to ask you ladies about your experiences with your husbands and what did they tell you about actually doing it and how was it for them.

I think he needs to know what to expect. Do they go to a room? a bathroom? is there porno there? Can I come with him and keep him "entertained"? how embracing is it really?

Your help is appreciated!

Thanks!

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Registered: 07-02-2003
Thu, 09-11-2003 - 3:30pm
I'm sorry he's going through this anxiety. I think I was more anxious than DH when he has to do it- I was convinced he was going to freeze up and not be able to do "it". With his though because we don't live far from the clinic, he could do it at home and just had to drive it in. So long as it's kept warm and there within an hour that's okay and I think much less pressure. I can't help you with the going in and doing it.....just make sure he knows that everyone there is there for the same reason. No one thinks anything at all of it, it's just a daily occurance. I'm sure they must have porno....that would help, right?


GL to him- I hope it goes well ;o)

(((((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))))))))))))))

Tara

 

 Tara~ co-cl of Pregnant after TTC

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Registered: 05-16-2003
Thu, 09-11-2003 - 3:55pm
Hello there! I just took DH's semen to the clinic this morning.. He was very anxious about this, and we were both worried that he wouldn't be able to do it, but... we did it at home. I got a specimen cup from the Dr's office and we did it at home.. I felt really bad for him, but hey, this is one of the only way's to find out if there's anything wrong ya know...

I know at the clinics here in KS, they have padded rooms with TV/VCR, magazines and porn... Also, the wife can go with the husband here in KS, and he has an hour to "get the job done" Of course, my DH isn't into that, so that's why we decided to do it at home so that I could help him b/c there cannot be any salivia, lubrication, etc... it has to be done dry.. so I did other things in helping him to where he could "get the job done"

I hope that helps!! The bad part about the whole thing is that you have to wait 10 business days for any type of results!!

I am going to get DH a card on the way home, b/c he said that he felt very "VIOLATED" this morning when having to do that..

Good Luck!!

*HUGS*

Chelle


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Registered: 06-04-2003
Thu, 09-11-2003 - 4:14pm
Chelle,

Thanks a lot. Its nice to know my husband is not the only guy who freaks out about this. Unfortunately I don't think we can do this at home...And I think the word your husband used - violated, describes how my husband feel its going to be. And your husband did it at home. I think I will have to buy my DH something a bit bigger then a card.... :(

Wish him luck!

Hugs back

Bosma

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Registered: 07-09-2003
Thu, 09-11-2003 - 4:16pm
I don't know how close you live to the lab/clinic, but... If you live within half an hour, he can do it from the comfort of your home.

Our clinic sent us home with a sterile "specimen collection cup," and my DH did did the deed at home. (God only knows if he used porn or what.) As long as you get the specimen to the lab/clinic within half an hour, it's fine.

Good luck to you!

Tami
Mommy to Anna 7.7.04 & Ben 11.19.06