should I get my hopes up?
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should I get my hopes up?
| Tue, 10-21-2008 - 8:30pm |
DH and I had yet another talk tonight. He said that he still doesn't want one. I said that is it just, "NO!!" Not "maybe" or "I'll think about it"? He then said "I will think about it". So, of course super sensitive me got upset and said don't pacify me. If it is no I need to know no. He said again "I will think about it". I am really hoping that he does want a third, but do you think I am getting my hopes up just to get crushed? I want another so bad and he knows it! Should I just let it lie for a while and see what happens. I have been harping on it quite a lot lately. What do you think?



Recenly, about 4 months ago is when my DH finally said yes to TTC after 2 years of me telling him I was ready. So, don't give up hope. Maybe just give him like two weeks or so without mentioning it, and see what happens? After the two weeks talk to him and see where he stands, and let him know it's tearing you apart being stuck in limbo not knowing wether you will ever have another baby or not and you do want to respect his feelings, it's just really hard for you not knowing.
I would like to inform you that I am a proud participant in the EXACT conversation and outcome that you and your DH had.....
Yet, here I am TTC for 8 months.... he eventually saw the pain in my eyes and the need to have another... he said, "I trust you, we will go for it"....
So, just make SURE in a BIG WAY that he knows how this "I'll think about it" is effecting you. My DH said the same thing...I told him that it's not a valid answer...I gave him a timeline to decide and he did...
My suggestion... give him a time line...tell him you have a month to think about it....if you still don't know then it's a "no", but tell him you want 5 top reasons why not (valid reasons). It's interesting that after a month of thinking about it they convince themselves (at least mine did).
HTH ((HUGS)) Good luck!
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