Is there anyone else out there.....(m)
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Is there anyone else out there.....(m)
| Fri, 08-22-2003 - 11:16am |
that is nervous to TTC again after having a child with a disability or any other problem?
My last baby who is now 2½ was born with Down Syndrome and while I know the odds are in my favor of not having another special needs child, I'm still nervous.
BTW.....if you're interested in seeing my lovebug here's a link http://community.webshots.com/user/feather1000 just click on "Daniel"
Heather TTC#4, C1, CD19, 6DPO


My cousin has Downs. When she was born, my aunt and uncle were very unsure about having baby #3. They did have baby #3, giving Sara the best possible advantage. Because she's always trying to do the same things as her little sister, she's developed faster and farther than most other children with a similar severity of Downs.
While everyone has to choose for themselves, I'm just offering this bit of thought. Sara's doctors commented on how often parents let their child with Downs remain the baby of the family, babied through adulthood. Often, having another sibling encourages them to succeed.
Good Luck to you on this very difficult decision.
I have not had any children yet, so I cannot fully understand how you must be feeling. But I just wanted to send you some (((Hugs))) and encourage you to hang in there.
I worked as a school psychologist for 10 years (just took a much needed break last year)...and so of course, I have had a lot of interaction with children with all types of disabilities...and with their parents. I can say that those parents are some of the strongest and most courageous people I know, and I have so much respect for them and all that they do in looking after thier children and advocating constantly for their needs. I know how much you love your child and that he must be a very special blessing to your family...and at the same time, I certainly understand you must have so much fear about this happening again. The odds are that it won't...but that does not remove the fear.
I know that I have had fears myself of having a child with special needs...partly because in my career, I have seen so many that it almost seems like the norm! And partly because I'm 36...and I know the risk increases with age. But I just have to trust that things will be okay and not let it keep me from trying to have a baby.
Please know that we are all here to support you...and I wish you much luck as you try to conceive...
Take care,
Anne
TTC#1, C5, CD10, Clomid Cycle 1
Anne - Proud Mommy to Rachel Elizabeth!
Ya know, our decision to have another child after Daniel was EXACTLY for the reasons you stated. While we're very excited to add to our family, we know that it will be so beneficial for Daniel.
The past 2½ years have gone so fast yet so slow and we've learned so much. While we know we've been blessed with having such a special child, it does leave us a tad anxious if you know what I mean! :o)
Thanks again,
Heather
Yes, Daniel has become such a special blessing to our family. He's really made us all stop and realize what is truly important in life. I know he's helped me understand patience and acceptance on a whole new level. These attributes, no doubt, will help DH and I are this new jouney we're about to embark on.
Good Luck to you!
Heather
I want to tell you that your angel is very cute. I love children who have downs because they look through life very differently and it means so much more to me. I pick up so much from those types for kids rather than the others. You get to see them while their wheels are turning and in the mean time you are getting blessings after blessings. You just learn so much through them. I just wanted to tell you to keep your head head up and God knows exactly what you can handle. Just always remember that. If he knew that you could not handle it then why did he let it happen. So keep your eyes up and God knows what he is doing for you, we just happen to not catch up until the end and then say so that is what that was all about. Put a smile on your face and everything is going to be great...(((((HUGS)))))
-Stephanie
I just wanted to let you know that I have an aunt with Down Syndrom and she is the centre of our family. She provides laughter for everyone and our get togethers just wouldn't be the same without her!
She is now 32 years old and has been married to a down syndrom boy for 10 years! They have their own apartment with a caregiver who comes over 3 days a week to help them plan their meals and deal with money. Of course it was tough on my Grandma as my grandfather passed away when Cora was 7 but she handled it well and Cora is now very independent!
Good Luck with TTC #2, I'm sure Daniel will be a fabulous big brother!
Angela
A big thanks for your thoughtful post.
Much luck to you and yours,
Heather
Anyways, a huge thanks to your Aunt for breaking the "stereotypical" image that alot of people have in regards to people with Down. I know your inspirational post helped me alot! I sometimes get down in the dumps thinking about Daniel's future and the possibility that he might not be able to function independently. I have a renewed hope now!
Heather
Take Care,
Heather