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Registered: 07-21-2003
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Tue, 08-05-2003 - 6:34pm
Do you ever just get tired of trying? We been TTC #2 the "Old School" way for 2 years now and I just started charting last month and BBT this month. The past 2 months AF showed up at 23 days instead of 28 (which has been my cycle since I was 12) with spotting around the 20th day. I starting taking my BBT after AF was gone but my temp times are so irregular because I've been sleeping in the past few days. FF says I may have ovulated around day 12 or 13 according to my CM. But it may also be day 15 or 16 according to my temps. I'm on day 16 and we BD'd on day 14 and were going to try again tonight exept now I think I have a yeast infection. Is somebody trying to tell me something? I'm concerned that I'm not ovulating at all because I don't have EW or Watery CM. Although I do get cramps around that time of the month which I always thought was a signal to try. My son is going to be 4 in Oct. and I would like to give him a brother or sister before he's in college! Sorry about the vent, it just gets so frustrating sometimes.

Thanks for listening

Julie

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Registered: 07-11-2003
Tue, 08-05-2003 - 6:56pm
Hang in there Julie! Have you talked to your doc about seeing a specialist? It will happen when you least expect it! Hugs for YOU!!!

Teresa

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Registered: 05-12-2003
Tue, 08-05-2003 - 10:23pm
Hi Julie! I know exactly how you feel. We have been TTC #2 since our ds was born. He will be 4 in December. We wanted our kids close in age, like 2-3 years apart. Oh well, so much for that! I know what you mean about ovulation, I don't have any of the CM signs either. I don't even have o pains. I use the clearplan fertility monitor and if it wasn't for that I would never know when I o'd! Have you talked to your doctor about this? I know I have problems ttc, but we have been working on that. DS is a fertility baby so it did happen with us (thank God!!). Hang in there, I know it's tough, but it's the only thing we can do. I have given myself to the end of the year to get pg and then it's quitting time for me. I am going to learn how to be satisfied with what the Lord gave me, even if it's not what I had wanted.

(((((hugs)))))

Sheila

1 ds

ttc #2 for 3 yrs

4 m/c

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Registered: 08-06-2003
Wed, 08-06-2003 - 6:57am
yes it is frustrating!!lhave two children but when l try,d for a third nothing happened now my youngest is six,so there will be quite a gap between.however l did find out that l,m not ovulating which has answered a lot!! have u been checked to see if ur ovulating?? that could be helpful?good luck!!ps now that l know l,m not ovulating l,m getting treatment
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 08-06-2003 - 10:25am
Oh Julie, I'm sorry things have been so hard for you. I know how you feel and I am here to tell you not to give up. I will share my story with you. I got pregnant with my first 2 without even trying. I decided I wanted a baby and I was pregnant. When my kids were 6 and 3 we decided that we wanted another child. A year later we still weren't pregnant. My dr put me on Clomid and all that did was mess me up. I quit taking it after 6 months. Then a month later I found out I was pregnant only to lose the baby. I don't know how it happened that month, I don't chart, but I watch cm and cp. Neither seemed to be in the right place that month. We continued to keep trying and my dr said that since I had had a mc it would be easy for me to get pregnant and that it should only take a couple of months. Well,the day after I had my d&c my son broke his femur. He was in a body cast for 2 months and that is hard on a 5yo. Then I started having really bad stomach pains and after a couple of months finally went to the hospital where I had emergency gall bladder surgery. Things were not going my way at all. My due date for the baby I lost was approching and I still wasn't pregnant again. I was trying to stay positive, but it wasn't working. In June, the month I was due, my DH and I started having problems. I was stressed, he was stressed and we were never in the mood to BD. I swear we only BD twice that whole month. I wasn't even really watching my cp, but I didn't notice any cm that month at all. Well, after that novel, I will get to the point. Two days before the due date of the baby I lost I found out I was pregnant. One of those 2 times we were together in June was the right time. After trying to have a baby for almost 3 years we are expecting in March. My kids will be 9 1/2 and almost 7 when the baby is born. I was worried about the age gap at first, but now I am just so glad to be getting the baby I have been longing for that I don't care.

The point is...don't get discouraged, it will happen. And your son won't care how far apart in age they are. Good Luck to you! I hope it happens sooner rather than later!

((HUGS))

Cortnie

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Registered: 05-05-2003
Wed, 08-06-2003 - 12:35pm


Well, by your chart, it really looks like you have ovulated this month. It is really unlikely to get a temp rise like that without ovulation. If you aren't seeing fertile CM, you might try taking robitussin (guafessin? only) around your fertile time. This might thin your CM and make it more friendly to the little guys. Another thing I have heard is for people without fertile CM to try to BD as much as possible (every day) during the fertile time, for you that would be like days 9-14, or until you see your temp go up. That way, even if your CM isn't super sperm-friendly, you keep adding fresh sperm so there's a good chance of fresh guys to crack the egg. My sister just go PG after 3 years trying and thinks it was partly because they BD'd every day that month.

I also agree that since you have been TTC a while, it would be time to talk to your doctor and let them run some basic tests.

GOOD LUCK and I hope this helps!

Vicki