TTC and MIL stress. HELP!
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TTC and MIL stress. HELP!
| Thu, 03-26-2009 - 3:54pm |
My husband and I are TTC our first child. We have been having tons of problems with his family, everything from getting married to buying our first house. My MIL is a huge control freak and the

~Kimberly~
I have a very similar situation with my IL's. My MIL refused to accept/respect me as being DH's wife. Things continued to escalate to the point where MIL basically forced DH to choose between her or me. Well, much to her dismay, he chose me. That was about 6 months ago and, at this time, we're not on speaking terms with them. I hate things being this way, but it was their choice, not ours. I still send cards and gifts on
WELL unfortantly I have been in your shoes!!!!! really I read you story going WOW my MIL not soo bad......LOL OHH YES SHE IS...
Okay so my short story My DH is the baby of the family........ we met and dated for 2 years and decided to get married, well on the planning of the wedding I got preg. OPPS but we were soo excited!! well when we went to tell his mother we took the Ultrasound photo and showed her and she threw it across the room...and said ITS NOT HIS BABY!!!!!!! WHAT!!!!!! yeahh so that was our start. We have learn to keep our distance and she has no idea we are trying for another baby this will make our 4th child. SHe is still the same person she was that day SHE HATES ME..... and Thinks I am trapping my DH..... we actually have not spoke to her in almost a year.. we live half way around the world to get her out of our life.... I think you have to act like she is not bugging you and stressing you....... YOU JUST
Michelle~ 34 wife to Todd 39 Mother to 3 wonderful children 13, 9, and 4 with our little special baby #4 coming in January!
I am glad to know I am not the only one in this boat! But I am sorry we all have to go through this.
I chuckled a little bit to myself as I read your post because it sounds identical to what my DH and I went through. My MIL and FIL have since calmed down but that's only due to the fact that we moved 1200 miles away. My MIL still gets a little nasty when she comes out to visit every once in a while but I just shrug it off. She knows that if she is too nasty to us that she wont be allowed to see our kids when we have them.
When DH and I told her we were trying to conceive she told us that she was too young to be a grandma and that we were being inconsiderate. She's almost 60! my mom on the other hand was thrilled and can't wait for us to have kids.
Sorry I can't give you any more advice on relaxing...the only thing I can say after dealing with my IL for over 6 years would be to just go about your business and if they don't like what you and DH are doing it's too d*mn bad.