TTC & A Friend Problem

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Registered: 06-11-2003
TTC & A Friend Problem
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Thu, 08-07-2003 - 3:37pm
Here's the scoop. My friend did not come to my wedding. She gave five see-through excuses as to why not. It was out of town, money, blah blah blah. She didn't even give us a card or gift! My family was angry with her. This was last month.

Now I am to be her Maid of Honor for her wedding on the 30th of this month. Last Sat. was her bachelorette party and I told her I would not be attending. Reason being, I quit smoking & drinking and didn't want to be out until 4am as she was. Plus I am pretty darn moral and she said if "I do anything with another guy while I'm there it stays there, period". She hung up on me. Needless to say I didn't go to the party.

Second, her bridal shower is being thrown by me and a few others is this Saturday. (She didn't throw me one for the record) and she doesn't want me to participate in that and maybe not even the wedding now. She said this before hanging up.

She does not understand that I am TTC and what that means as far as lifestyle changes. She's 32 and I'm 24, you'd think the experience difference between us would help us see eye to eye. Obviously I'm a bit further ahead in my thinking on this subject & other morality issues than she.

Any ideas? I don't like this stress while TTC.

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Registered: 06-11-2003
Fri, 08-08-2003 - 2:45pm
That was great advice thank you so very much. I think a little note will be beneficial for me for one to get this off my chest and two, for her to see how I feel without doing it face to face. That may risk a conflict (she's a yeller) and I don't want to be yelled at.

Thanks again, I will do that today.

Claire

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Registered: 06-11-2003
Fri, 08-08-2003 - 2:47pm
I will, thank you as soprano said you are so right! I moved out at age 15 and have been supporting myself since then. It made me a much stronger person, I've had to be responsible for myself, my rent, my car, etc.. for a long time compared to my peers. It's time for me to move to the next stage in my life. Motherhood. I will open my heart and hope that some new friends come walking in! :D

Claire

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