A unique situation...
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| Mon, 10-13-2008 - 9:46pm |
hi everyone, im new to this forum and would like some advice...
my dh & i have a unique situation where he works away all week and returns home on friday nights, only to go back late sunday nights. ive been off bc since january and nothing yet. he was home for the whole summer beginning in may, and just returned back to work 3 weeks ago. we had 5 cycles ttc.
i know stress is a huge factor in ttc & it was an extremely stressful summer, as we were moving into our newly constructed home and dealing with contractors, changes & minor mishaps. all is well house wise and my stress level is back to normal, lol.
im 33 & he is 26. he has a 5 year old from a previous relationship. ive been pg before so i know we are capable. i understand that we need to be ttc for 1 year before we're considered infertile. however, because he is often away during my o time, does this rule apply to us? he will be home again may 2009 for the whole summer (i'll be 34 by then) and hopefully it will have happened by then.
i don't chart my temps but am very aware of my cm and when i ovulate due to my cramps and sore breasts. ive had an exam from my ob/gyn. she knows we are ttc and did all the necessary tests - everything is normal for both me & my man. i take prenatal vitamins and am avoiding alcohol.
im feeling a little anxious due to my age (33) and the fact that he's not often here when i ovulate. i guess i feel like im running out of time...
any thoughts/comments/suggestions would be helpful.
thanks

Well, that situation really does suck. Lots of the women on here have had the same sort of situations with regards to the husband having to leave at certain key points in the TTC months.
If you know you're ovulating, I'm sure the problem is that he's just not home when he should be (meaning, he can't be there when you are Oing)
Is there any way that you could go to him or is he too far away? Maybe you could meet each other half way.
Obviously, if it's a problem going to see him, perhaps you could just do it every other month.
Since he's not there, I don't know that the doctor could or would do anything for you at this point. Since you said, you know you can get pregnant, and he's got a child, so it doesn't appear to be a fertility problem at this point. It appears to be a crappy timing situation that can't be helped.
Good luck, maybe some of the other ladies have better ideas.
thanks for your suggestions & taking the time to answer. i guess it is just timing, and that sucks. im actually on cd 9 (he left late last night) and will be back on friday about 9pm. im supposed to o on thursday. technically its possible if i o earlier rather than later since sperm lives pretty long. and its possible that we may hit the jackpot on friday night too, if i pounce on him as soon as he comes in the door!
he is about 6- 7 hours away so it's a bit difficult to just take off mid week since we both work. i just have to wait i guess, and thats what kills me cause im a planner!
Your situation really does suck, I'm sorry about that.
an expensive suggestion is having his spermies frozen and getting IUI done or IVF if he is always going to have a job like this and you guys can't meet when it's O time.