What would you do in my place?

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What would you do in my place?
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Wed, 08-20-2003 - 3:20pm
This is probably very silly of me, but I can't help myself, so let me know what you think...

I received an email from the woman who's MIL is "magic" and I am now stressing about it. It was so kind of her to think about us and pray for us, but her instructions were very specific and I don't know if we can pull them off. She said to bd before 7am on Friday, both us had to climax, I had to lie on my right side afterwards, etc. I think this may be very difficult to do because dh and I both work at 8am and I don't think he will be thrilled to get up early just to bd. And if I tell him I want to do it because of a prediction from someone I don't even know, he will think I am nuts! And I'm not sure we can pull of the climaxing part (he won't have any trouble, but I might!).

I want to do it, especially because when I think about her MIL praying for us I get a warm feeling all over (I am not at all a religious person). And if I don't I will wonder forever if I missed my one chance!

Any feedback? Am I just finding yet another TTC thing to obsess over?

Carolyn

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Wed, 08-20-2003 - 3:51pm
We might be getting a wee bit graphic and TMI here- lol. Perhaps you should try the new Dr Ruth section on iVillage? Heehee. Well...I'll bite the bullet and get personal~

You should get yourself started first- if ya know what I mean- you will have a better chance of climaxing then since he probably won't be thinking about you too much. I wouldn't tell him- if he's anything like my DH you won't be getting ANY then. Then- you'll have to go to work on him- be forward(ah-hem....do you know what I mean?) wake him up that way and he will just be so horned up he won't care what time it is- you could turn the clock so he doesn't even see the time to get mad about it? Take matters into your own hands- don't rely on him- he'll love it I'm sure.

Without saying it straight out- do you know what I'm saying? Blushing-lol!!!

Tara

 

 Tara~ co-cl of Pregnant after TTC

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Wed, 08-20-2003 - 3:53pm
Carolyn...

I know that this can be a touchy subject with a DH who likes to get his AM sleep... I'm there with ya.

However, I'd really try having a serious conversation with him about this. If he is totally with you in TTC, he should see this as a possibility. Tell him it's not like you're trying to do this every morning for two weeks... it's a one stab deal. And the possibility of getting pregnant from this should make it very do-able.

lots of luck... and keep us posted.

Cathy

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Wed, 08-20-2003 - 3:55pm
Okay, my DH is the same as yours and would think I am nuts to believe something like this. I am still waiting for my response though. I am going to tell him that it is just something I really want to try, and please please to just humor me on this one. YOu never know. I also can almost never climax. I can recall two times I have in five years. And this is way TMI, but I will be straightforward and honest about it. The only way I did those two times was with the aid of a vibrator. It is one day of getting up early to BD, and a little change for you two. I know it is tough to convince DH. It took me forever to convince to use real egg-whites. Which I will never do again. But just give it a whirl. What have you got to lose? A couple hours of sleep. I hope my advice has helped and I wish you tons of luck.

Stacy
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Wed, 08-20-2003 - 3:56pm
You are so cute! Yes, I am a liberated woman, I know what you mean.

Thanks for your suggestions!

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Wed, 08-20-2003 - 4:04pm
I agree with Tara. I'd like to add one thing. Don't do any BDing until that moment. Hopefully he will be so horny that he won't think twice about the time. OR....she said before 7am on Friday. Any way you two can stay up late Thursday night and BD sometime after midnight?

Best of luck to you! Hope you pull it off!!

Chrissy

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Wed, 08-20-2003 - 4:08pm
Carolyn, I am 100% with Tara. When I wake DH up *that* way he wouldn't care if the house were burning down around him! LOL!!

I will add.... if you do some of the work while your are .... um, close.... then you might be more likely to climax as well.

Good luck! I will add my thoughts for you on Friday!

Teera

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Wed, 08-20-2003 - 4:12pm
:O) ...I don't question the power of prayer or the efforts of others to do good. But, I figure God started the process of reproduction, it's a very natural thing that needs little effort from us to be successful. Educate yourself on the process of conception, use an ovulation prediciton kit...and pay attention to your body. You can whisper your own prayer all by yourself...right after you and dh bd as time and desire allows. Don't fret...and although this is a good world...not all do gooders are dead on accurate. I'm sure He will hear your earnest prayer as loud as He would hers...
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Wed, 08-20-2003 - 4:15pm
Ladies, you are the best! Don't worry about being too graphic, it doesn't bother me or make me blush (makes me laugh, but not blush!). I appreciate all the input, and what I think I will do is tell him that I have heard that bd'ing in the morning can help and see what he says. May be I will work up the courage to tell him about the prediction. We'll see. And then, if we are a go, I will wake up extra early and think about my favourite movie star (don't really have one, any suggestions there?).

Thanks for all the feedback and thanks for not thinking I am a silly dork!

Carolyn

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Wed, 08-20-2003 - 4:23pm
Heehee! It's true- male hormone levels are at their max in the morning- swimmers are ready and eager to go! by the night they are tired and slower so male factor wise it IS better to bd in the morning! You'd be telling the truth there! I can't wait to hear how it goes!LOL!
 

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