Why when I post does no one......

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Why when I post does no one......
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Wed, 08-06-2003 - 12:47pm
respond to me??? Just wondering...maybe it is because I dont post that often..I reply to few posts...I dont know...I feel lost. Maybe my questions are just difficult. Just feelin a little down. Sorry....

Jenn

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Wed, 08-06-2003 - 1:21pm
Hey Jenn, I'm basically going to say the same as the other posters. I reply to people's messages when I see them, when I think I have something helpful to say, or when I have had a similar question and would also like to know the answers.

This board being so fast is one of my biggest concerns. I came from several months at the On-Hold board. Boy, is that group a great group of ladies (not that we aren't, of course :) ) With there being only a couple dozen of us there, we got to know each other fairly well.

As you stay here longer, you'll connect with certain other folks. Your cycle will have you "running in the same pack" as lots of other ladies. I've found those people to be the most able to respond. I know I'm guilty of only skimming the other sections, while reading my area (where I am in the month) a little more carefully.

I don't get replies all that often, either, it's not just you.

Hang in there, I hope you feel comfortable with us all real soon!

Mary c1 (I didn't count the first 2) cd9, ttc#1

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Wed, 08-06-2003 - 1:26pm
{{{{{Hugs}}}}}

Sorry you are feeling down. I try to post as often as I can answering questions and stuff. Though there are ALOT of things I just don't have answers on so I don't post at all. It is hard to respond to evey post on this board because there are so many and it moves so fast. I too find from time to time I don't get many answers. Personally I find it easiest to post to questions that are short and specific. Alot of times it is hard to respond to someone who goes in to detail about when their last AF was when they O'd etc...especially when there is no chart attached. I would encourage everyone to post to others questions more often. It is easy for us all to say...Oh I'll let someone else answer that. I'm sure someone else will have the answer. But if you have 2 cents to add it is worth it to the poster as we all know. Every additional bit of advice to our questions is always helpful.

Another poster mentioned cliques. This board is so positive and helpful. I don't think there is anyone out there who is intentionally avoiding questions. All I can say is that when you are on here alot and you "talk" to specific people you get to know their situation and find it easier to answer their questions.

I'm really sorry you are feeling down and left out. I hope I can help you with your next question. I wish you all the best in your TTC journey.

{{{{{hugs}}}}}

Chrissy

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Wed, 08-06-2003 - 2:18pm
Jenn and others.....I'm so sorry you're feeling neglected! Please beleive me when I say it is certainly NOT intentional. I agree with the above posts, that this is such a busy board and it is terribly hard to get to everyone. I will say that personally I try to respond to everyone who has not received any responses whether I know the answer or not, and then to everything I know the answer too. I do get frustrated that others don't post as often and feel *at times* that I am struggling to keep up with it all. I am here most all of the working day and post to everything I can. I agree that there may be some "inner cliques" but mainly this happens over time- if you've been here a year friendships do grow- and through the joining of some group- like the Egg Crackers or corresponding cycle buddies. This narrows down the groups and enables ladies to become more familiar with others on a more one on one basis. I am suprised at the number of you who are feeling this way. Again I apologize, and I hope that this will make more people realize how much responding means to others and will do it more.

I would also like to encourage others to take the time to push the "more" at the bottom of the busy folders to check on missed posts- I make a point of doing this every morning in this top folder to bump things up for you all, but it is SO busy and there are often ones that get pushed back quickly.

Thank-you all for bringing this to light~ Please stay and all make a concerted effort at giving EVERYONE the support they need!

((((((((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))))))))))))

Tara

 

 Tara~ co-cl of Pregnant after TTC

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Wed, 08-06-2003 - 2:21pm
Hi Jenn. I think people post to the things they can relate to or really have an opinion on. If they can't relate in some way or another, they're not going to respond. You yourself indicated that you "reply to a few posts" which means there are many that you don't reply too. Don't get too down. I don't reply/post very often, (1) because there are a lot of posts that mention the same things I'm wondering about so I read and learn from those, (2)because I don't have answers to many of the questions and (3) and I say this with all due respect for everyone but to some of the questions I feel like screaming, "Stop it and call your doctor's office and ask, that sounds kind of serious!" But I don't want to sound insensitive or rude so I'd just rather not reply.

I've posted my own thoughts/questions a few times and received less than a handful of answers, but I'm so grateful for the ones I do receive and I am satisfied with just a few. I lurk a lot and have learned a tremendous amount from these ladies. But I also have friends and my DH that I communicate with so I don't solely rely on this board to keep me going. It concerns me that you're so down about not having many replies. Are you new to your town with not many friends? Are you and DH getting along? This board should be there as ADDED support for you, but not your sole source of happiness.

I hope as time goes by, you find that the few posts you might receive are indeed treasures from very kind, gifted women who care and can probably relate to what you're going through. Perhaps you might try wording your posts differently like, "Has anyone ever felt..." "Have you noticed....during..." etc.

GL to you! And please don't feel bad about anyone here, they're all wonderful and you'll get lots of knowledge if you just continue to read others' posts too.

Susan

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Wed, 08-06-2003 - 2:31pm
Hi! I am reather newish here (been coming more and more frequently over the past month) so I know how you feel. From my experience with other boards here though is taht people respond to A) their friends B) a "hot" or interesting topic or C) if they know the answer for whatever you are asking.

Don't be discouraged, keep on posting and I will try and keep my eye out for them!! :)

--Sylvia

TTC#2, c2, cd22, 9DPO

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Wed, 08-06-2003 - 3:48pm
Hi, I'm new to this site too. I try to check the board everyday but I haven't quite got what all the abbreviations and acronyms mean. LOL on your TTC. Feel free to email me if you need some one to talk to.

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Wed, 08-06-2003 - 4:38pm
Hi Jenn,

I know a lot of people have already responded to you and I don't have a lot more to offer but I wanted you to know that I'm sorry you feel this way. I used to post a lot more than I do now and I did have a group of cycle buddies. Most of them graduated and one day I suddenly felt like I knew no one! This board turns around so quickly. I was just reading all of the names from the check in post in this section and out of 50+ posts I think I recognized less than 10 of them and I have been on these boards for over 5 months!

I mainly lurk now because I feel I may be getting too obsessive with TTC and it's stressing me out.

Good luck to you, sweetie! (((HUGS)))

Kristy

TTC#1 C5 CD18

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Registered: 05-13-2003
Wed, 08-06-2003 - 5:29pm
I feel exactly the same way. Sometimes I bump my own post several times and still don't

get a response. I try to respond whenever I *think* I know the answer. Hopefully it will get better for us. I'll respond to you whenever I can. Take care and best wishes!!

Brandi

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