I know I should move over to PAL but I'm scared.

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I know I should move over to PAL but I'm scared.
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Mon, 04-11-2011 - 2:17pm

I know I don't belong here anymore, and I don't want to upset all of you ladies by being here, but I'm petrified to move over to PAL. Like somehow if I post there, I will lose this bean - like I'm jinxing myself. I know that's silly, but I just can't get up the nerve to move.

Kelly, mom to 4 year old Lexi, wife to Rob TTC Number 2 since April 2010, with a loss in June 2010 at 4.5 weeks, and a loss in April 2011 at 8 weeks (possibly ectopic). Saw the RE in May 2011, we were moving forward with testing and an IUI when we
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Registered: 05-12-2008

NOTHING is wrong with you.

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Registered: 12-13-2009
Kelly, I (and I'm sure others over at PAL) know EXACTLY what you're feeling and going through. Please take the plunge and introduce yourself. I promise we won't bite and we'll be nothing but supportive ;-).
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thanks to you both for understanding!! Dustie - I won't get b/w results until Wednesday at my appt. with my doctor. I will definitely post here after my appointment to let you girls know how things are.

and, Becky (sorry if I remembered your name wrong!), you are so right, and I know you guys on PAL will totally support me....
Kelly, mom to 4 year old Lexi, wife to Rob TTC Number 2 since April 2010, with a loss in June 2010 at 4.5 weeks, and a loss in April 2011 at 8 weeks (possibly ectopic). Saw the RE in May 2011, we were moving forward with testing and an IUI when we
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Registered: 10-10-2008

Kelly - there is nothing wrong with you at all! I have only posted a few times over on PAL, never officially introducing myself with my story. I have been lurking on both boards and I do so a few times a day. I keep telling myself that once I get to a certain point in this pregnancy, I'll become a regular over there. Well, I am 31wks now and still scared (I often think there must be something wrong with me!). Miscarriage robs us of our "pregnancy innocence" - I constantly wonder if something will go wrong instead of just being confidently happy.

I hope you get your reassurance soon! ((((HUGS)))))

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I know I am new here and everyrthing but this does NOT bother me at all. It gives me hope I could be you. Knowing others have gotten pregnant after a loss. Maybe I am the weird one.

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Registered: 04-13-2010
Nothing is wrong with you - it's super scary, and that's perfectly normal. I worry about doing things too, I worry about jinxing myself by doing things, like I have several opk's and hpt's that I'd love to give away, but I feel like if I do, that I'm jinxing myself and I'll lose the baby. I want to take the next two semesters off from school, and I either have to pay or withdraw by tomorrow, but I'm so scared that withdrawing will jinx me and I'll lose the baby.

When you're ready, PAL is great - I mean, everyone understands because they've been there recently. Here, you will eventually get someone upset because they wish nothing more than to have the fears you are feeling, does that make sense?

We're not too far apart - a little over a week! I'll be 7 weeks tomorrow (I think) so we can do it together :)


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thanks Torie. You are totally right - the last thing I want is for anyone here on TTCAM to be upset with me and I remember all too clearly how it feels to hear the newly PG people talking about their PGs. I think I would feel a little better about making the leap to PAL if I hadn't had the spotting. But at lunch, I went and posted on PAL and I'm going to try to get over my fears and make the move.

and yeah, we are pretty close, maybe about 1.5 weeks apart?
Kelly, mom to 4 year old Lexi, wife to Rob TTC Number 2 since April 2010, with a loss in June 2010 at 4.5 weeks, and a loss in April 2011 at 8 weeks (possibly ectopic). Saw the RE in May 2011, we were moving forward with testing and an IUI when we
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Registered: 09-24-2004
Yep, like I told Jen.... if at the u/s the sac measures where you think it should be, that makes a huge difference. :) So I'm keeping my fx that your measurements are right on track!! (and no more bleeding is wonderful!)
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Good luck with your appointments this week. Maybe you should think of pal as just another folder of this board since we have had so many grass over there you may find it very comforting. Either way you haven't upset me and I'm glad to hearth spotting has stopped. Hope you have a healthy 9 months from here on out.

Andi
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Registered: 06-27-2006
Andi, I like that thought - that PAL is just an extension of this board. Maybe if some think of PAL as just an extension of here, and that maybe if it's thought of as separate because there are already so many folders to wade through on TTCAM, they had to split it off to another link, but it's got many of the same people, it would be easier?

While I'm not offended at the postings here by new grads, I do know that the support and information they are looking for may not be here because those of us still TTC can't give positive or accurate information to all the questions and may not know the right answers for a HEALTHY pregnancy, whereas the ladies over at PAL might have a little more knowledge and be able to support those with worries and bolster them up with POSITIVE stories and experiences, whereas over here, many of us might have had negative experiences with similar situations. I'm not sure if that makes sense.

But, I do like your thought that PAL should be thought of as just another folder, or an extension, of TTCAM. Everyone there has been through m/c, so it's not like some of the EC's where people don't "get" the fears and worries.
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