Need some advise

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Registered: 08-17-2010
Need some advise
Sun, 11-07-2010 - 5:54am

Hi ladies, I need some advise and i am positive this is the best place to get it.

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Registered: 07-28-2009
Sun, 11-07-2010 - 6:09am

Hi, there :)

I can personally attest to that fact that both TTC and m/c can wreak havoc on a perfectly good marriage. Sometimes there is a lot of blame and resentment. Often the women doesn't feel that her husband cares enough about the loss and often the husband feels like his wife is making too big a deal of it or grieving too long.

I could give you some song and dance about how important it is that you communicate and be honest with him about how you feel and make sure he does the same with you, but I gave up on that a long time ago. :)

When I feel like I need to vent or mourn or be sad about my losses, I come here. When I need to say some crazy TTC related thing that my husband would respond to by calling me crazy and intern hurt my feelings which would inevitabley end in a fight...I come here.

Everyone here has been where you are and has felt what you are feeling and it helps a lot to see that there IS a light at the end of the tunnel and you can survive and come out the other side of it all. It does get easier. I still think about my losses every day and how I should be REALLY pg right now but the pain is a dull sting as opposed to the constant, gut wrenching pain it used to be.

Stick around. It'll help I promise. And you can give the honest communication a shot too LOL That never hurts.

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Registered: 12-11-2006
Sun, 11-07-2010 - 6:58am
Michelle - can I just say, your daughter is ABSOLUTELY gorgeous - and it's easy to see who she looks like!! Love that family pic!
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Registered: 12-30-2006
Sun, 11-07-2010 - 7:47am

I'm so sorry for your loss.

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Registered: 05-12-2008
Mon, 11-08-2010 - 11:21am

I'm so sorry you are going through this.

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Registered: 08-16-2007
Mon, 11-08-2010 - 3:06pm

I can also relate to what you are going through. My DH often tells me that I became like a different person after my miscarriages. I