Madder than a HORNET!

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Madder than a HORNET!
Thu, 02-24-2011 - 9:16pm


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Thu, 02-24-2011 - 9:45pm
While I don't have the funds for IUI or IVF, since I'm strictly out of pocket for all IF treatment, and I don't know that I personally would go that route anyway at this point in my life (for personal reasons), I am not against other people going that route to achieve a pregnancy and have the child they so long for. I fully support all of the ladies here (and any others out there) who are trying so hard to have that child. (((HUGS))) I'm so sorry that you are so hurt by this. I hope that your IUI is super successful and you can go ahead and PRAISE God for the child He has blessed you with! :)
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Thu, 02-24-2011 - 9:53pm


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Thu, 02-24-2011 - 10:07pm

(((HUGS))) chica. Many here know that I am not Christian. That said, I believe that everyone has the right to worship as they see fit and I respect each individual's choice of worship.

Isn't God (in whatever form you believe in him/her) a giver of life? Wouldn't that wonderful, beneficent god be happy about life, regardless of the method used to create it? Our modern science is so far beyond what the authors of the bible could have even possibly comprehended. Pastors, preachers, priests are put in the uneviable position of trying to interpret it and put it into a modern context.

They are human. Priests obviously have not personally walked in these shoes (unless they came to their calling later in life). That was one priest's opinion, and it may not be the opinion of others. Each person brings their own experiences and prejudices into play, whether they want to believe they do or not.

I do understand your frustration. I would suggest that instead of reactively revoking your standing with the Catholic church, maybe seek out another priest and have a heart to heart with him? Maybe their perspective will be a little different, and they may even have some insight into what the other priest's letter was about.

Again, (((HUGS))) chica. I wish you the best, and I hope that you find that your beliefs and the teachings of your church are not at odds.




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Fri, 02-25-2011 - 9:53am
oh that makes me mad too. I would totally write a letter in response. It would make me feel better.

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Fri, 02-25-2011 - 6:14pm

Hi Carmela,

I'm so sorry to hear that you were upset after being so happy to read of this couple's journey. I'm Catholic too, and some of the ideas of the church don't sit right with me either. Some I absolutely agree with. I don't think it makes me any less of a Catholic that I take what I like and leave what I don't. The Church here is very forward-moving because the parishes are dwindling and the parisioners are ageing. The Priests here are quite modern and I like that. But there are some very old stubborn ones too.

There are so many personal decisions and I don't think it's right for anyone to make blanket statements about ethics. We should all make our own decisions.


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Fri, 02-25-2011 - 8:10pm

Wow, I can't believe anyone would think that way, let alone a priest.

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