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Tue, 04-05-2011 - 5:32am

In-laws, love 'em or leave 'em?

Chouli, 34; DH 45 Lilypie Pregnancy tickers
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Registered: 08-01-2005
In reply to: chouli77
Tue, 04-05-2011 - 7:23am

LEAVE 'EM!

I hate to be so mean and say it. My MIL means well but, she has her way about dropping hints about how I'm not good enough for my hubby. She'll tell me how my DH likes his soup cooked, what's his favorite meal, asks how I don't stay home fulltime anymore with the kids, crap like that. She'll talk to my DH on the phone and tell him how great I am and blah, blah, blah. So I feel she's a little 2 faced. That and she LOVES to throw baby fits if we don't do what she wants or we don't show up when she wants. My FIL passed away before I even met my DH, so I don't know him. And my SIL is nice but she's woe is me all the time! Her life is a terrible wreck every second of every day.

Hey thanks for the vent! But I guess I'll take 'em cause I wouldn't give up my DH!

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In reply to: chouli77
Tue, 04-05-2011 - 9:45am
You know, there are times when I love 'em, and times that I could leave 'em. My FIL I definitely could leave behind. He's got a million opinions and some of them are not very good ones of me - and he's not afraid to share those opinions with the more nasty of DH's relatives. My youngest SIL, I could also leave. She's pretty self-centered and immature and voices her opinion pretty nastily when DH and I make decisions that she wouldn't necessarily make for herself. When we were ready to move here (we used to live about 15 minutes from my IL's before moving here - about 8 hours away from them), my DH went to visit his parents the night before we left and apparently they told him that it was ALL *MY* FAULT that we were moving away from them and taking their only grandchild (at the time) away from them. Thankfully my DH stuck up for me and left them in anger and came back to me and refused to communicate with his own parents for months after we moved. Things like this have happened, unfortunately, more times than I care to think about - where DH has done something that my IL's don't like but is none of their business - and then the lines of communication are cut off because my DH is so angry at his own parents.

That being said, my MIL, I believe, if not swayed by my FIL's opinions and his threats to her (he has forbidden her from visiting us, and her other children, on her own and other such asinine threats), she would be someone I would LOVE to have around more often. She's a bit naive about some things, but is truly a sweetheart. She can be aggravating in her own ways, at times, but nothing mean, spiteful, or harmful. :)
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Registered: 06-27-2006
In reply to: chouli77
Tue, 04-05-2011 - 9:46am
Oh, and my other SIL and BIL and their families? LOVE THEM! I can spend hours talking to my BIL's wife and my BIL is generally a good guy. My DH and he get along really pretty well. And my SIL and her DH? Also great people. So, not all bad on my IL's side of the family. :)
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In reply to: chouli77
Tue, 04-05-2011 - 6:14pm
I may be in the minority here, but I say... LOVE 'EM!

I am so blessed to have absolutely wonderful in-laws! They are great in every single way!


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In reply to: chouli77
Wed, 04-06-2011 - 11:23am
My in-laws are awesome. They treat me better than my own family. In our relationship, my husband is the one with sucky in-laws.