Update on me! (No more TTC & I'm ok!)

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Registered: 07-21-2009
Update on me! (No more TTC & I'm ok!)
Tue, 03-01-2011 - 9:55am

I wanted to update (I hope some of you remember me)! I finally came to a place where I could let go of having another child. I don't know exactly how it came about but it started with a HUGE fight with dh about ttc. We talked about divorcing and he said some very hurtful things. For months after that I felt myself detaching from our relationship but didn't know what to do. I was hurt and angry and kept thinking we'd be better apart. I had started letting go of the baby idea during that time cause nothing sounded worse than bringing a child into this mess. Well we had a "just the two of us" vacation to Hawaii planned during Thanksgiving and I was dreading it. I kept thinking what will we do there, will we get along, will we want to do the same things, usually we have our kids to keep us busy..... Alone together sounded scary. Well it was amazing and as corny as it sounds we fell in love all over again. We have decided we want to try living there for a while when our youngest graduates (1192 days & counting) That really helps cause I was terrified of what my life would be when they all left and now I have a focus! Fortunately life has been busy so that helps too, we have two senior daughters this year so prom dress shopping, college decisions, graduation and grad parties have taken over my brain lately! I still have twinges of baby fever but I know it's not whats best for us. We are using the NFP method so if God thinks it should happen it still can but I'm totally ok if it doesn't. I will come by and keep an eye on you guys, I'm still praying for you all to get your bfp's!!!!!



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Registered: 05-12-2008
Tue, 03-01-2011 - 9:18pm

I'm not sure that I was back here yet when you were here, but I wanted to say that I am happy that you are in a good place!!

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Registered: 06-27-2006
Tue, 03-01-2011 - 10:07pm
I wasn't here when you were here, but your story gives me hope for peace. We're going through IF treatments (Femara/Prometrium) right now and are currently using NFP because my doctor prefers that type of charting to see what's going on. But, if we don't get pg this cycle, I have one more cycle on the meds, while being monitored, and then I'm not sure where we'll go from there. After 3 years of TTC, I'm about ready to call the game, pack up and head home, so to speak. LOL! While we haven't had the marital problems as badly as it sounds like you and your DH had things, it does wear on a marriage and it does wear on your enjoyment of one another. I hope that someday, if it's not meant to happen, I will find the same peace as you have found.

Congratulations on your two seniors! I bet it's fun doing all the prom dress shopping! My parents have had a couple exchange students and I think that's one (of many) highlights for my mom - she gets to relive the teenage excitements year after year. :) I hope the 1192 days go by quickly for you and your DH! Hawaii sounds like a FANTASTIC place to live!
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