What's the worst advice you've received from a doctor?

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What's the worst advice you've received from a doctor?
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Tue, 03-01-2011 - 12:41pm

Has a doctor ever given you advice that just didn't make sense or was totally wrong?

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When I was 21 and still in school, I was without insurance and went to a free women's clinic for a yearly pap test. The dr. asked me if I wanted birth control. I told him no. He was really snide and said "you're not concerned about getting pregnant?" I said "no, bc my bf is in Iraq." Then he changed his tune and said "o, so you better not get pregnant." Say whaaaaat?

I went to see him 6 months later about how I suspected I had PCOS and what I should do about it. He says "o yeah you do have PCOS. Didn't I tell you last time you were here?" "No, you most certainly did not." So then he puts me on the pill anyway. I wound up with a DVT and a PE 2 months later. The pumilnologist (sp) who came to see me in the hospital told me that I should've never been on BCP's in the first place bc of my diabetes. The OBGYN never told me that when he gave me the script.
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My new OB told me not to worry so much about TTC#2 as I already hgad a child and it would come with time...he knew at that point that I had been trying for 3+ years!

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Not about TTC, but I spent two weeks in the hospital with my 12 year old daughter. She had a heart infection. The morning we were going to leave they gave her a new medication and she got what looked like full sized marbles on her feet. It was disgusting. The nurse immediately gave her some benedryl and by the time the doc came in, they were just red welts. I told the doctor that she was allergic to the medication. She responded by telling me that they were just bug bites and I shouldn't worry. Bug Bites? After 2 weeks in the hospital? But she insisted they were bug bites. I told her not to send us home because the reaction would happen again, but she wouldn't listen. 3AM that night we were back in the ER under a constant watch because my daughter had hives so bad.

That experience forever changed my approach with doctors. Not that I don't respect them - but they are people too and they make mistakes. Moral of the story is you have to be your own LOUD but respectful advocate when you know that you are right. And sometimes you just can't let down.

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He didn't have a very good bedside manner, I can't believe that he told you that.

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Erica, did you have a hard time listening to him after that?

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Bug bites???

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Not as life threatening as some of the previous posts but one cycle I was a week late but kept gettin BFN, went to see Dr hopin he would take bloods and was told to keep testin once a week until I got a BFP or AF arrived! Once a week? Crazy doc!

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Once a week?

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When I was in the hospital having Landon, I had already been diagnosed with severe preeclampsia, which had taken the life of my 35 week baby. I had originally planned not to have an epidural, but I talked to my nurse and told her I was not handling the pain well because I was in such emotional pain, I asked her to tell me honestly, what is the best way to not feel any of the physical pain since I couldn't handle it emotionally. She told me an epidural would be the best way to go. So I got an epidural, it hurt really bad when he was doing it, and I never got a single bit of relief. About 2 hours later, she had another doc come give me another epidural - this one worked for about an hour. After another 2 hours, they came to give me another one. I'm talking entirely new epidurals - not just adjusting what was already there. The third one didn't work either. I kept complaining about a pain in the front, above my belly, below my breast on the right side. I was continuously told it was from a "bad epidural". It was a constant pain and I pretty much told any nurse that would listen and was told it was from the bad epidural. When the doctor came in to check on me, I told him about it - again, I was told it was a bad epidural, this doctor was still oncall when I finally delivered my baby, and he released me the following morning. That evening I was still having constant pain in that same area, and as my husband says "I was out of it" he called the number they give you to call if you have any issues after being discharged. The oncall OB called back personally and asked me several questions, he instructed me to come to the ER right away and have him paged as soon as I got there. I did. He ran a few tests and diagnosed me with HELLP syndrome, I remained in the hospital for an additional 8 days with complications. It turns out that pain I had been complaining about was liver pain - which is one of the symptoms of HELLP syndrome. I later found out that I got so bad in the two days after being readmitted that they didn't think I was going to make it, they were so sure that they even told my husband that I would likely not make it. Had my husband not KNOWN there was something wrong with me, I would have likely died just days after my baby died, from the same thing that killed him. That's just scary.


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OMG Torie, I don't even know what to say after reading that.

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