1st MC introduction

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Registered: 11-20-2007
1st MC introduction
Mon, 06-20-2011 - 9:20am

Hello all.

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Registered: 03-02-2007
Mon, 06-20-2011 - 12:31pm
Welcome to the board, and I'm so sorry for your loss.

My advise is to just wait and see, and recover physically and emotionall before you make any decisions about trying again. Right now, you are just one week post D&C, so your emotions are all over the place and it's hard to think clearly and put your fears aside. In some ways, I think it's good that after a m/c it takes your body a while to get a period - it's like your body's way of saying, "Hey, we've been thru a lot lately, just try to rest and recover and we can work on this baby thing again in another month or two."

this is a great, supportive group of women who will help thru this recovery process and be here for you when you decide you're ready to TTC again.
Kelly, mom to 4 year old Lexi, wife to Rob TTC Number 2 since April 2010, with a loss in June 2010 at 4.5 weeks, and a loss in April 2011 at 8 weeks (possibly ectopic). Saw the RE in May 2011, we were moving forward with testing and an IUI when we
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Registered: 04-08-1999
Mon, 06-20-2011 - 2:17pm

I am so very sorry for your loss.

I don't have any advice for you but I do understand where you are coming from. I just suffered my first miscarriage too. I have a 8 year old daughter. I am also dealing with the questions of maybe I did something to cause it. My fear is that this was my first cycle trying with my SO...his ex-wife suffered 4 miscarriages and I am hoping that there isn't something wrong with him. Maybe it was just meant to be in my case but it's still so very hard to wrap my head around that too.

There's a great group of ladies here and we all understand what this is like. Welcome to the group.


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Registered: 06-12-2007
Mon, 06-20-2011 - 3:41pm


As with all of the women on this board, I understand what you're going through.

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Registered: 03-01-2010
Mon, 06-20-2011 - 11:27pm
This is a very hard road to travel, none of us wanted to take this detour, I am so sorry you had to join us here. It took me 3 yrs to get pg with my first, when she was 18 months I got pg without even trying and I was THRILLED, how lucky was I?? Sadly though that ended in m/c and I was devastated, just so not fair.... 9 months later I was pg again and had my second DD, it can happen. I am now in my second marriage and had a m/c last year, we are still TTC again, hoping for a miracle. It does get less painful with time, but do allow yourself to heal, both mentally and physically, before jumping back in again, big hug....
 Me and girls xmas 09
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Registered: 11-20-2007
Thu, 06-23-2011 - 7:04am

Thank you ladies for all your support.