I would just like to post a reminder about the iVillage Terms of Service.
It was me. My bad. I have a hard time with remembering sometimes, b/c I am the kind of person who likes to use her full expressive vocabulary. It feels unnatural at times not to do so. And to be honest, having to censor myself sometimes makes me feel like I am being asked to act like a child when I'm clearly not a child. Sometimes the best words to use to express a thought are actually adult words that I'd think other adults have heard plenty of times.
But I am sorry if I offended anybody. I'll do a better job of sanitizing my language/censoring myself.
I'm pretty sure my language doesn't follow these guidelines. Sorry if anyone was offended or disturbed by my salty language. I honestly thought that changing the letters or switching symbols for letters was acceptable and not offensive, especially since we're all adults and I've never seen a post regarding vulgar language before.
Not to sound silly or anything, but is there a list of specific words we can't use? Like some of us refer to af as a filthy Ho bag, is that vulgar? Or is it just 4 letter words that are vulgar? I know it may seem wierd but I'd probably do better with a list of no no's rather than trying to decide myself, since I have the language of a sailor.
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Oh...not sure if I have, but nice to know.
To Meaghan, and anyone else who is wondering: No, I do not know of a special list of words that we shouldnt use. But use your best judgment, and try to stay away from the four-letter variety.
However, here is a quote from ivillage's Rules of Play: "Keep Your Posts Clean: There may be places where explicit, obscene or vulgar language, graphics or behavior is appropriate: iVillage is not one of them. Message board posts that contain explicit, obscene or vulgar language will be removed (unless iVillage determines that it is warranted given the topic of the message board). Similarly, message board posts that solicit or offer explicit or X-rated GIFs, JPEGs or other graphic files will be deleted without notice!"
Instead of using bad language, maybe we will start a word-of-the-day to enhance our vocabulary! Haha! For instance, "excrement" could be used instead of .... well, you get the idea.
guilty as charged as well. I kind of have fun with some of it... sorry too if I ever offended anyone.
To keep with the PC theme, I wonder if iVillage has any TOS provisions regarding things like politics or religion? Because if we are to all be proper and inclusive, perhaps there should should be rules about that, too.
I admit to being profusely insulted by some of the religious tickers that people use on these forums. I am 100% in favor of women and only women making choices on behalf of themselves, their families, and their reproductive lives, but that DOES NOT mean I'm "pro-abortion" as some of these tickers imply. (*Notice that I have no ticker or blinkie box saying something like "keep your rosaries off my ovaries".) Nor do I think I or others who've HAD TO HAVE abortions for pregnancies gone horribly wrong should have to sit here thinking that others believe we are Godless murderers just because of the way others integrate religion and morality into their beliefs about women who either choose to or have to abort their pregnancies . . . without EVER knowing the realities of the circumstances that individual women face.
Just throwing that out there, because at least in my mind, there is a huge gulf between the use of colorful language (esp. when "bad words" aren't directed AT ANYONE) and the placement of tickers that can be outright insulting and hurtful to users of these forums.
I realize I am probably slitting my own throat here as I did apply for the co-CL posiition and likely will not be chosen. I 100% understand that iVillage has a TOS and that when we created an iVillage account we did agree to that TOS so I am in no way saying that there is any debate as to whether or not this should be allowed. No CL or CM created these terms - they are simply upholding them.
With that said, I wanted to add that I agree with what a couple a women said here yesterday. We are adults and the subject matter here is also adult subject matter. No children should be reading the things we're talking about here and if they ARE they will be probably be offended by a lot more than just the occasion masked four letter word.
I also agree that the line between what is and isn't considered offensive can be so very easily blurred. Most of the time no one says anything because to a point we kind of have to just understand that we can't censor what everyone says to make sure that we're not bothered by any of it. The world just doesn't work like that.
Anyway, I know there wasn't much point to my saying that as the terms cannot be changed but I just wanted to throw that opinion out there.