Christmas Day M/C of Twins at 7 weeks

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Registered: 12-28-2010
Christmas Day M/C of Twins at 7 weeks
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Tue, 12-28-2010 - 10:20pm

DH and I found out we were expecting twins on 12/16. The following Monday we found out hCG levels were low and had to be repeated on Wednesday. Had an u/s on Wednesday and found out we had lost one of the twins. The levels came back fine on Thursday so we assumed everything was okay. Christmas morning I woke up to bright red bleeding. I prayed and prayed and it stopped but only to return later that afternoon when we were done with Christmas dinner. We came home and took a nap but I was still bleeding when I woke up so I decided to drive to the ER. They told me my levels had dropped to 285 and I was m/c. Merry Christmas. As soon as I got home I started bleeding really badly and was in severe pain all night long. I passed both gestational sacs. I'm devestated. I just want my babies back. We wanted these babies so badly. We have one child together, Alexander who will be 2 in Feburary and I have a son and daughter from a previous marriage. We want one more to complete our little family. We want to TTC again right away but I am scared. This is not my first m/c, but my 6th, well 7th if you count both twins. I just do not understand why my body keeps doing this. My OB has done NO testing to see what is wrong. I was told I had all the blood markers for Lupus by my neurologist. I tried telling my OB's nurse this but she does not listen. I go in Monday afternoon to have my levels checked and my doctor to check me. How long did you ladies wait to TTC again after m/c? I have had good and bad success with this, the first time I conceived my

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Sun, 01-16-2011 - 10:19am

Welcome and I'm so sorry for your losses.

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Sat, 01-15-2011 - 1:54pm
Im so sorry for your losses. I started TTC right away after both m/c. I got a bunch of tests done though to make sure my body was ok. GL and lots of HUGS!!!!
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Thu, 12-30-2010 - 12:12am

Oh wow, I just want to say how sorry I am about the devastating loss of your twins, as well as all of your previous miscarriages. How awful! And to have to endure that on Christmas Day, no less.

As for when to TTC again - it is totally up to you and what you and DH feel comfortable with doing. There is usually no increased risk of miscarriage if you decide try again right away. It is usually for emotional reasons, or because of other medical complications, that you are asked to wait the "standard" 3 months.

If you have an OB who wont listen to you and refused to test you for lupus, begin looking elsewhere. I cant stress enough how important it is to be your own advocate when it comes to TTC and your body.If you feel like there is somethign wrong and that there might be a medical reason behind your losses, then youre most likely right. Do everything you can to find a new competent, attentive, caring medical provider, and it will make a HUGE difference in how you feel, and the type of care you receive!

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Wed, 12-29-2010 - 10:54pm
I am so very sorry for your losses and my heart if heavy for you. I wish TTC a full-term baby was easier and it sometimes feels like it is all luck. I know I sure haven't been lucky lately. Again, I am sorry.
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Wed, 12-29-2010 - 5:23pm
Hi, I'm so sorry for your losses. I agree with the other ladies about switching if it's possible for you. You've found a wonderful group of ladies, I hope you will get all the support here that you need, there's some very knowledgeable ladies here.


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Wed, 12-29-2010 - 3:48pm

I am so very sorry for your losses.

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Wed, 12-29-2010 - 3:39pm
I'm so sorry for your loss! I think if it were me and I wasn't getting any help from the doctor, I would be looking for a new doctor. Will you get to actually talk to the doctor on on Monday? Can you address your concerns and what tests you should be having done for 3+ miscarriages or will your doctor brush you off the same as the nurse? What does your OB/GYN have to say about your blood markers for Lupus? I would bring up your questions with the doctor. If the doctor isn't willing to take the time and listen or make a plan for what to do next, then maybe you need to find a new doctor who will take a little more care with you. Lots of (((HUGS))) for you!
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Wed, 12-29-2010 - 9:11am

I'm so sorry for all of your losses. The loss of you twins on Christmas must be especially hard. I agree with Jessica & Danielle. I think you should look into finding a new doctor who will do testing on you, especially after 6 miscarriages. I got testing done after 3. I also tried again right away after my first miscarriage, but that pregnancy ended in m/c, as did the pregnancy after that. So, I haven't had much luck in TTC after MC. This is a wonderfully supportive place full of women who understand what you're going through. I do hope your stay here is short & you get your sticky BFP soon.

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Wed, 12-29-2010 - 1:20am
OMG...I'm so sorry. {{{HUGS}}} I agree with Jessica....switch OB's, and fast!! It's ridiculous that your OB won't do any testing, really. Especially since you're testing positive for Lupus! And it doesn't matter that you have previous children because problems can crop up where there weren't problems before. Call your local hospital and talk to an OB nurse, explain your situation, and ask them to recommend a good OB...they are a GREAT resource, cause they've seen the good.... and the bad! I know it may be hard to switch cause maybe you've had this doctor for awhile, but, no matter....if they can't take you seriously after all you've been through and they don't work for YOU (like they're supposed to)....then switch....and don't look back!

Again, I'm so sorry for the loss of your twins. :( {{{HUGS}}}
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Wed, 12-29-2010 - 12:50am

First off I am so sorry for the loss:(

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