Diminished Ovarian Reserve and depressed

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Diminished Ovarian Reserve and depressed
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Thu, 10-14-2010 - 1:34pm

I am so depressed, I can barely stand to see a pregnant woman or a stroller right now. Recently I

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Mon, 10-18-2010 - 1:55pm

Unfortunately I have no insurance coverage for any fertility treatments at all and we can't afford it, so I can't do IVF with ART and I don't think they would consider me a candidate anyway with an FSH of 18.

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Mon, 10-18-2010 - 1:43pm

I like your way of thinking, it made me feel better.

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Fri, 10-15-2010 - 10:52am

I am so sorry for your loss and the decision you had to make. As an AMA gal, I know what you are feeling. I'm 41 trying for my first for almost a year and have been doing acupuncture for 6 months now and I love it. Not only does it help with prepping your body for pregnancy, it helps regulate your out of whack hormones. I know after my m/c I was just all over the place when I'm normally pretty even keel. It was very depressing, frustrating and to add a loss on top of all that was some days unbearable. I had a high FSH - CD3 was 11.9 and CD 7 was 19, but when I had my CD3 retested after four months of acpunture,

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Thu, 10-14-2010 - 10:29pm

I'm so sorry you went through that.

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Thu, 10-14-2010 - 9:09pm

I'm sorry to hear about your recent loss. I wish I had a magical potion that would make your sadness disappear. I'm sure you know that it'll take time to feel better-and that's perfectly fine.

As far as if you are only able to have your one child you should not be too depressed. Just think about how much love you have to give your child. How cherished he/she is and will continue to be. Some people don't have that kind of love from their parents or never felt it when they were a child (me) so your child is lucky to have you, to love him/her, and that is most important than anything else. While a sibling may make a great companion (this is not guarenteed) the most important person in a child's life is often mom and/or dad. As long as your child has you to love them they don't really need anyone or anything else.

I still will wish you the best of luck with the acupuncture and that one day you can have another child. But just remember that whether or not that is possible you already are a great mom and have a wonderful child who loves you to eternity.

 


Karen



 


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Thu, 10-14-2010 - 8:56pm

I'm so sorry hun. I have heard wonderful things about acupuncture though. I hope it works for you too!

I'm still ttc #1 but I know I will want siblings for them as well (if I'm able to get my 1 haha). I think we all have our down days. Maybe do something special with your little one this weekend and enjoy the one on one time with them. I hope things turn around soon, again I'm really sorry!

Katie, DH, DD- Emma (11/27/11), #2 due 10/4/13 : )

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Thu, 10-14-2010 - 8:56pm

Sorry for your loss.

I have serious doubts about my egg quality. Its a guess though @ 36. No shame in taking Clomid to get pregnant.

How did your Drs diagnose you with diminished ovarian reserve?

I started acupuncture 2 months ago & conceived & lost a pregnancy while doing it. I felt a little lost after that, I mean I thought it was supposed to help me keep a child this time.

My mom always says stuff re: my TTC like stop trying so hard, are you sure you want another, you are crazy, etc...

Ive always thought Id have 2 kids. I know now Im blessed to have been given one, but it doesnt make me want another any less. In fact I think it makes me want a 3rd since I cant even seem to get #2. I also find it hard to take DD to classes where it seems like every other mother is pregnant or has a newborn

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Thu, 10-14-2010 - 8:16pm

Thanks Kelly!

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Thu, 10-14-2010 - 7:56pm
Ha yes! Unless she is watching TV at 6AM with a giant bowl of choc ice cream! Nice!
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Thu, 10-14-2010 - 7:49pm
Well, I also figured that parents who are here, worrying over this, automatically aren't going to be that kind of parents, kwim? I will say that we did have a lot of the experiences, and I feel like my parents weren't kid people either. I kind of don't think they should have had me. ;)

My mom said if she ever died and were reincarnated, she'd want to come back as my kid. I told her I'd only want to go back to her as her dog. ROFL and :( at the same time. Sad but true.....

I can guarantee that your daughter doesn't have the same lifestyle you did, though -- I mean, when she's parked in front of the tv, you and Tony are there with her, joking, talking, and just being together (unless of course, it's an early morning BD session, but that's for her own good. ;) )

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