Family thinks we shouldn't ttc (m)

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Fri, 03-28-2003 - 2:44pm
Not only am I dying to ttc, but my family kind of acts like we should wait. Originally this summer, dh was giogn to fly home for his brother's wedding. The kids and I weren't going to go as I was going to be too pg and we'd be saving money for the baby. Well now that's the not the case, and i think a trip home woudl really do us some good. We're going to see my family in AZ and go to Disneyland and Grand Canyon, lots of fun. So my mom is telling me we shoudl wait so I can go on all the rides! LOL! It's funny I guess, but the thing is she has hinted before at maybe we shoudl rethink baby #3 since we had gone back and forth on the idea before I got pg. Well my heart wants another baby and ecspecially after I got pg, I did. Now I don't feel any differently, I still want another baby. I feel like we're meant to have one more. Dhs' family hasn't said too much but my SIL said we shoudl wait till after vacation so we can have more "fun" while we're visiting everyone. But what is FUN to me is getting pg and knowing i have a new baby on the way! Plus if I get pg before we go home, then the 4 wks we're visiting, I'll have more to take my mind off of being scared of m/c. Or, God forbid, I m/c again, I'll ahve my family for support. Not only that, I just can't see postponing ttc for a vacation! It may take us a year to get pg, for all we know and why put that off. I wan to get started! I am having enough trouble waiting one cycle when I'm sitting here w/major EWCm and a plan to BD tonight anyway! Thanks for listening!

Katy

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Fri, 03-28-2003 - 3:04pm
*Hugs* Katy, do what is in your heart! Good Luck with the BD Fest!! ;)

~Bean

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Fri, 03-28-2003 - 5:29pm
I can totally relate. My mother didn't know why we wanted a third to begin with. Then when we m/c, she REALLY didn't. However, she knows I have my heart set on it so she pretty much just says nothing about it. I don't think I would put it off b/c of vacation, either! Being pg and happy is a lot better than thinking about being pg and happy! LOL! GL with working through "family stuff"! Jacqui
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Fri, 03-28-2003 - 6:16pm
I agree with Bean that you should do what is in your heart. We were a little luke warm about the idea of starting our family when I first got pg and now after the mc we know how bad we really want it so I understand your drive.

GLTY!!!

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Fri, 03-28-2003 - 9:04pm
I know what you mean...whenever I would make comments about wanting another baby before I actually got pg...my sister would say things like.."are you sure you want to do that???" Then when I was pg and due in Oct. my sis and mom kept commenting about how I was going to be miserable in aug. when our families vacation in N.C. ...like my condition was going to keep everyone from having "fun"!!! Then when I m/c...my DH said "well, were not going to try again until after vacation...you don't want to be pg in the summer..." Well, you can imagine the "talk" we had after that stupid comment and from him of all people!! Now I'm no longer pg...and couldn't possibly be more miserable than I am now. And pg again is what I want to be...more than anything in the world...no matter what month I'll be due in. If only they knew the pain in my heart...sigh... I've decided not to broadcast to the family my plans of re-ttc ASAP!!! It's none of their business anyway...LOL Julie

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Fri, 03-28-2003 - 9:09pm
p.s... DH and I had some fun with EWCM last week...I just didn't see any reason to waste such a good and obvious chance at "catching that egg"...lol Good luck to you...and me too I suppose :) Julie

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Fri, 03-28-2003 - 9:50pm
Julie when did you m/c? How long did yoru doc tell you to wait? I had a D&C March 10, and it's killing me to skip the shot at this major EWCM I have going on here!

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Sat, 03-29-2003 - 6:14am
Katy, I think your last sentence said it best " ...I'm gonna Bd anyway..." GOOD FOR YOU! Following your heart is always the best road. Best of luck! Liz
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Sat, 03-29-2003 - 8:03pm
My m/c started on 2/24...and the D&C was later that week on 2/28. I have really long cycles... normally around 42 days. It took 2 years to concieve this past time around. My Dr. knows that I'm anxious so he asked me to wait "1 cycle so that we don't have to guess at the dates"... I've thought long and hard and read just about everything there is to read on the net about concieving right after a m/c...and I've come to this conclusion...I feel ready now!!!! And it seems that my body is ready too ;) Good luck to you! Julie

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Sun, 03-30-2003 - 10:52am
I'm leaving in a month for Disneyland and would have been 20 weeks if not for the m/c. We are waiting to see if that first AF shows as we couldn't wait either and have not been using bc. I think I may have O'd and am having some pg-like symptoms, but my face is breaking out horribly..usually a sign that AF is coming (although my skin does break out some during the 1st trimester). Anywho, my mom wants us to wait so I can go on the rides too, but if I hadn't had the m/c, I wouldn't be going on anyways. I tend to do the opposite of what others tell me just to prove to them it's none of their business. Good luck to you!

Vanessa, ttc #6

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Sun, 03-30-2003 - 10:59am
Thanks ladies for the encouragement. We want to start ttc regardless of vacation plans. It just really kind of hurts my feelnigs that my mom is not more enthusiastic that we want another baby. She was like that before I got pg too, but then as soon as I was pg, she was excited. Then when I m/c, one of the first things she says when I say I can't wait to ttc was that maybe we wanted to rethink that now that we kind of got a "do-over". ARGH! If I get pg before we go, I'd never trade that to go on the rides! If I get pg, I will HAPPILY sit on the sidelines and rub my belly! Besides I could go on some of th elittle kiddie rides anyway and I only want to go b/c my kids will love Disneyland. I am not going to stand in long lines to ride my rides when I could be taking my kids on every single ride they want to go on! I can't see my toddler or my preschooler standing in a grown up ride line for a half hour only to stand on the side and watch the grown ups. SO when my parents and my dh want to go on those, I'll take my kids and we'll go see Mickey Mouse or something. That's IF I get pg! Man I want to so BAD! I hate even thinking in terms of being pg, b/c it's like getting my hopes up.

Katy

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