Feeling Hopeless and Need Advice

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Registered: 02-25-2013
Feeling Hopeless and Need Advice
Mon, 02-25-2013 - 9:04am

Hello everyone....this is my first post here but I am really hoping for some guidance.  I'm feeling incredibly furstrated and overwhelmed and just plain helpless.

A little background on me....I was diagnosed with PCOS in 2004 but was able to conceive my first daughter naturally in 2005.  After six years of "not trying" but "not preventing" I got a surprise BFP in November 2012 only to lose the baby on Christmas Day.  The ordeal has been heartbreaking and the absolute hardest thing I have ever been through.

My OB advised that an "established pregnancy" tends to put the PCOS in check for the several months following a miscarriage and that, if we decided to conceive again, our best bet was to try in the next 2-6 months.  Given that advice, I decided to start charting this cycle (I had my first AF after my D&E and started charting that day).

Here's my low down:

 - I've been temping - though I don't think it's reliable because since the miscarriage I haven't slept for more than 3 hours at a time. 

- I've been monitoring CM and yesterday and today have had the EWCM. 

- Yesterday I had some bad lower back pain, seems to feel better this morning.  I've also had some very mild cramps and my boobs have been/are tender.for the last 2 days.

Now for the one check that has me feel like this is all for naught... I've been taking OPKs since CD6.  All were negative until CD22.  Today is CD25 and I am still getting blazing positives (4 days later!).  I know that women with PCOS can sometimes always get positive due to increased levels of LH throughout their cycle but mine were all negative until a few days ago.

Can anyone tell me if this is normal?  I'm so frustrated and annoyed...I really thought for the first time ever my body was actually going to work like it should.  Now I kind of just want to crawl into a hole and cry.

Thanks in advance for the help.... I really appreciate it.

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Registered: 11-13-2008
Mon, 02-25-2013 - 4:43pm

Hello melstei.  I'm so very sorry for your loss :(  

You could have caught the levels both rising and going back down, which is why you are seeing positives for 4 days.  Are they all the same darkness or did they start out a bit lighter and are getting lighter now?  I would take it as a good sign that you ovulated, with the test results and your other symptoms.  Have you managed to fit in some good BDing sessions?

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Registered: 06-29-2011
Wed, 02-27-2013 - 1:54pm
How awful for you, I'm so sorry about your miscarriage. I've never heard a pregnancy could help your PCOS symtpoms before, but it does make kinda sense that it would stabilize your hormones. Try not to let this get you so down, you still could have had a great ovulation. (((HUGS)))
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Registered: 06-28-2010
Fri, 03-01-2013 - 5:28pm

I totally understand ,I have PCOS as well. And we have Struggled to concieve all together we have no live children and 5 total losses so far 4 early losses and  one late loss at 19 weeks:( its rough !! I know what you are going through stay strong and know that it does happen I am not PG  an things are looking good! Things will work out for you regardless of age.


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Registered: 07-13-2001
Fri, 03-01-2013 - 5:33pm

Im so sorry for your loss :(

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Registered: 05-04-2012
Fri, 03-01-2013 - 5:48pm

I am so sorry for your loss.  It can be normal to get your first positive OPK cd22 and have it for multiple days.  I usually get 2-3 positive OPK's at a time.  I think with PCOS it is also common to ovulate later on in your cycle.  Have you seen a shift in your temps to show that ovulation occured?  You don't always need 3 consecutive hours of sleep to see the shift.  I can see it in my charts but never get the right amount of sleep.