feeling very sad today

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feeling very sad today
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Sun, 02-05-2012 - 6:31am

After two miscarriages and being so scared to try again, I find out that 3 of my friends are pregnant. I found out in the period of 48 hours for all three. Off course I am happy for them but the pain I felt in my chest was unbearable. I was trying not to cry and my husband just hugged me, he definitely knew that it was difficult hearing these news.

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Tue, 03-27-2012 - 6:36pm

I know that feeling all to well:(

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Sat, 03-24-2012 - 5:20pm

It's a hard situation.

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Thu, 02-16-2012 - 4:49am

Ok so I have little update. My husband and I talked about getting tests done to see if we can potentially find a cause for the miscarriages and I finally went to see a doctor this morning and will be doing some tests in the upcoming weeks. Here in Italy they have a procedure on what types of tests are done first so we are just going to follow their procedure. I was not sure if I wanted to do tests yet but last weekend another friend announced she is pregnant (4th friend in a month), she decided to tell everyone while we were at a bar by lifting her shirt to show off her belly. Off course everyone said congrats. And then my husband just shut down and would not speak for the rest of the evening. It was so difficult to watch him like that but he would not admit why he was sad. He finally admitted when we came home that it was because of the pregnancies and he asked me to do the tests as soon as I can because it is a step we need to take anyways. So there, tests are coming up and I will keep you updated. Thank you!

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Wed, 02-08-2012 - 5:49pm
((((HUGS)))). It's so hard! I hope you are able to get a BFP and THB soon!

Jenn (28) & DH Zach (28)
Married 9/24/2005

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Wed, 02-08-2012 - 11:37am

I wish for you a BFP soon & a VERY happy & healthy 9 months!!

Kiki (hit my magic age of 45 and no longer TTC),but mom to a beautiful teen DD & 2 angels in heaven & married to my best friend

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Tue, 02-07-2012 - 12:47pm

Thanks everyone so much for the kind words. I am really grateful for this group even though I don't come here often.

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Mon, 02-06-2012 - 4:50pm
I am so sorry hun :( .... I know the feeling all too well... Things will get easier with time .. I hope you find peace and comfort in this support group here with us ..

-Jessica

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Mon, 02-06-2012 - 4:10pm

I am so sorry for your loses. I know exactly where you are coming from. Please, do not beat yourself up. You are only human. You've been through two very sad and traumatic loses. It's okay to not feel joy right now for your friends. It doesn't mean you wish anything bad for them, it just means your heart has been broken and you can't be feel happy for them right now. You will heal from this. I know, I've had 3 miscarriages and 1 stillbirth. Luckily, I've been gifted a little girl who is now almost 2! Best of luck!

Madonna

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Sun, 02-05-2012 - 11:16am

I'm so sorry for your losses and then having to deal with other people's "happy" news which makes it more painful.

Stephanie

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Sun, 02-05-2012 - 10:31am

Well, you are not alone...it's DEVASTATING to have to go thru a m/c!!

I know for me, it will be hard to TTC again....I'll be freaking out over 'any' little thing!! But, don't give up hope, the good news is, you can get pg.....just try again, be happy for those who are pg. and take one day at a time....it will happen for you, too!

Kiki (hit my magic age of 45 and no longer TTC),but mom to a beautiful teen DD & 2 angels in heaven & married to my best friend