giving up

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Mon, 01-09-2012 - 8:32am

I was just wondering after how many miscarriages would you give up? I suffered two last year and I am scared to death to try again. I am thinking if it happens one more time that I would give up...

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Mon, 01-16-2012 - 12:01am

I'm sorry you are feeling so scared... an I totally understand that feeling.

Stephanie

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Fri, 01-13-2012 - 2:37pm

awww, that's sweet! I like when guys 'chime in'!

Kiki (hit my magic age of 45 and no longer TTC),but mom to a beautiful teen DD & 2 angels in heaven & married to my best friend

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Fri, 01-13-2012 - 2:36pm

just wanted to give you a bit of hope!

Kiki (hit my magic age of 45 and no longer TTC),but mom to a beautiful teen DD & 2 angels in heaven & married to my best friend

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Tue, 01-10-2012 - 11:43am
Never give up! I'm a guy, but I know when God has a plan for us. So never give up!
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Mon, 01-09-2012 - 11:19am

I would not say that I am religious but going inside an empty church to pray has always calmed me down. I am not sure who I am praying to as I was never religious but there is something about going to church that I like. The other day I had a tough day because I was thinking about my father who passed away so I went to church, it was closed because it was very late at night but I sat outside the door for 30 minutes and prayed. I felt so much better. I am thinking of maybe going to speak to a priest. My husband always goes to a priest when he is having a hard time.

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Mon, 01-09-2012 - 11:13am

Thank you all for kind words. I know it is so hard for all of us. Sometimes I am angry, sometimes I get sad. I had many losses in my life (friends, family, miscarriages, etc.) and I just don't know how much more I can handle without snapping. I know a person who had around 10 miscarriages and then had a healthy baby. It makes you think that all this suffering might have a happy ending for some of us but for some maybe not. Maybe I am just not strong enough...

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Mon, 01-09-2012 - 10:18am

Idk if u are religious, but if you are, you should pray about it. When i was in the middle of my m/c...praying for a miracle...I heard God tell me clear as if He were in the rm with me, "I have promised you a baby, and you WILL have a baby." I held on to that promise thru the following infertile months. Every BFN, i told myself it WILL happen. Naturally, the devil tried playing with my mind. Trying to convince me it wasnt God i heard. But I was so sure of it, he couldnt convince me. Lo and behold, I am again pregnant and so far everything is progressing beautifully. I believe this baby will be coming home with me from the hosp keeping me from sleep and sanity for months on end. Unfortunately, in my better moments I dont hear God that clearly. I think it was at my darkest moment, He came thru so clearly. I will be praying for you to have ur answer. CLEARLY!

Britney (28) and Robert (31) TTC x 9 months with #1 Delivered a beautiful healthy daughter, Shalynn on 5/23/08 Been TTC since Feb 2010. MC 6/27/11
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Mon, 01-09-2012 - 9:30am
i've only had one (can you use "only" in the same sentence as miscarriage?) but have wondered the same thing myself. i know ladies who've had several then had healthy babies, so i don't know. i don't know how much heartache i would be able to endure...

Diane

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Mon, 01-09-2012 - 9:28am

I am sorry you are at this piont. It really is up to you. I have seen lasdies on here with 3,4 and I think 5 m/c and they are all still trying. I had my 3rd m/c this past Nov. I am waiting on tests to see if we are going to try again. Dont get me wrong I am SCARED out of my mind to try again. I know I will be even more scared when/IFwe get pregnant again. Having a great DR that undaerstands your fears help (I THINK).