Hi...new here...2 m/c's...????...

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Hi...new here...2 m/c's...????...
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Mon, 04-14-2003 - 10:46am
Three weeks ago I had a D&C for my 2nd m/c. My positive thoughts and prayers are with all of you as you ttc. I'm just curious about something. I haven't been back to my dr. yet, and I don't remember much from my 1st m/c...just the emotional devastation...so I thought I'd see if you ladies could shed some light for me. Why exactly do we have to wait 2 cycles to ttc again? What are the risks of getting pg before the 'OK' from the docs? They probably told me all this when I had the D&C, but if they did, I blocked it out. I feel so sorry for all of the losses I've read on this board. The emotional roller coaster is exhausting, isn't it? I'm still pretty angry and jealous of other pg women, I'm embarrased to say that even includes my 2 sisters. Now I truly understand the term 'bittersweet'. We were so excited to all be pg at the same time. Now they still are, and I'm not. It's just so unfair. I just can't wait to ttc again. I'm growing impatient waiting for AFP. Thanks for listening. Take Care. Mimi

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Mon, 04-14-2003 - 12:27pm
wow... i totally and completely know how you feel. i was pregnant with my sister in law too! we're very close and she is due in july and i was due in august. so it's still very hard to see her all pregnant and i'm just with my little flat tummy again. makes me want to scream that it can be so easy for others and yet so difficult! going through all i have has sure made me appreciate everything about conception/birth and everything. it truely is a miracle and very precious. life is so fragie and you don't realize that until you lose it. i wish others could understand the turmoil, hurt, anguish and frustration all of us feel... but they can't. and sometimes it's bad b/c they say things that hurt us even though that's not what they're trying to do. hang in there. as hard as it must be. sometimes i feel i can't go on this roller coaster anymore and this is only the 2nd month since my m/c and d&c. it was my first pregancy. the whole thing with TTC again after m/c has differing opinions. my doctor told me we were ok to TTC again right after. and then i've read that some people say you should wait 6 months!! crazy! i think the majority of people believe you should wait 1 full cycle. i'm waiting for AF to show up... i'm already at cd31... i took a hpt and it was negative. what a vicious roller coaster. if she's (AF) going to rear her ugly head, just do it soon so that we can TTC again this next month! anyhow, i totally feel with you. all the best... we're here to support you!

blessings,

Steph T.

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Mon, 04-14-2003 - 3:49pm
Mimi,

My Dr said 1 cycle to TTC, I m/c'd at 13.5 weeks and had a D&C. I waited 2 cycles, now I am on cycle 4 and no luck yet. I think if your body is ready, it will happen. The main reason to wait is so your DR knows when you conceived and to heal your uterine lining.

When I read your post, I saw so many similarities to me. I have 2 pg SIL and 3 friends!! I am happy for them and jealous at the same time. it is so frustrating!!

Best of luck TTC.

baby dust to you,

Cara