How long did you wait?

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How long did you wait?
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Sat, 03-29-2003 - 4:49am
It seems like there are so many different viewpoints about how long you should wait after a m/c ttc. Do you have to wait for the first cycle to be over? Mine are irregular, that could be 3 months! I don't want to wait that long. I have also heard some say you should wait 2 cycles. For me that could be up to 6 months. What did you all do?

Thanks,

Melinda

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Sat, 03-29-2003 - 6:17am
(God ment.)

We were told t wait 2 but preferably 3 cycles. We decided, however, that it was so early in my pg that if we hadn't been ttc, we would not have even known we were pg. If that had been the case, how would we have known to wait? We decided to leave it up to God and my body. We figured if my uterus wasn't ready, it wouldn't accept a new pg. So, we didn't wait but I don't think I ovulated before my first AF. I think you should listen to the advice of your doctor, if s/he gave you one but take your personal opinions into acount as well. I don't know how I would have been able to wait 2-3 months, much less 3-6. So now we're in the 2WW. I hope this helps you! GLTY! Love, Jacqui

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Sat, 03-29-2003 - 2:37pm
After first m/c we did not wait however it took us 4 cycles, after 2nd m/c we did not wait got pregnant right away, after 3rd m/c we decided towait 1 cycle and it has been 5 and no luck yet, we are in 2ww and feel positive about this cycle! Good Luck to you. My opinion is it depends on how you feel about your body,emotions and when you are ready and how far along you were.
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Sat, 03-29-2003 - 4:03pm
First of all... I am sorry for your loss. I had a d&c at 13w and my dr told me to wait 3 cycles. We waited 2 cycles instead of 3... I was VERY impatient. That first cycle ttc, I was *devastated* when I didn't get pg (I had heard so many stories about how fast people get pg after a m/c and it had only taken one cycle to get pg the 1st time)

In retrospect, I do not believe I was emotionally ready for the tough journey of ttc. I did not realize how tough a BFN or AF could be. I think another month may have helped me cope better.

When to try is such a personal choice. My only advice is to wait until the lining of the uterus has built up (I think that usually happens in one cycle) and to wait until you are emotionally ready for the difficult journey of ttc.

Good luck! Hugs, Lisa

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Sat, 03-29-2003 - 8:17pm
Hi

I just had m/c thursday. My doctor told me that we could try as soon as after my next regular period. Since then I have been reading up on it and they say that you can try after the next regular period but they recommed you wait 2 months.

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Sat, 03-29-2003 - 8:18pm
Preg. Ment.

I m/c in Nov. and just couldn't stand the thought of waiting to ttc. One Dr. told me one cycle and another told me 3. I think that if you m/c naturally then wait one cycle, but if you had a d&c then wait a little longer. I am now 7 wks pregnant and very nervous. We started again ttc after one cycle and got preg. on my 3rd. GOOD LUCK in your decision..

~Staci~

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Sat, 03-29-2003 - 8:34pm
I have long cycles...42 days give or take. I've heard about the posibilities of the lining not being built up enough since some people have been known to ovulate as soon as 1-2 weeks after a m/c....it's already been over a month since my m/c so I'm not too worried about that...and I'm really not expecting my first AF for about another 2 weeks. Then there is the emotional reason...well since I'm not technically supposed to be "trying" I don't think I'll be too upset if things don't work out this month...well that's what I've been telling myself anyway. ;) I really do feel that I am ready physically and emotionally...probably because I've had so long to think it over. If I would have had ewcm just 2 weeks after my m/c I'm not so sure that my feelings would be as they are now. HTH, good luck! Julie

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