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| Thu, 04-21-2011 - 1:04pm |
Well, looks like another one of us from the October board is on here. My doc couldn't find the heartbeat on the doppler so sent me for a sono to make sure everything was alright. We had already seen the heartbeat on the sonogram at 7 weeks. So we go over expecting to see a bouncing baby in there and there was not. My baby's heart stopped at 8+4. So, I had a D&C yesterday and here I am bruised, bleeding and heartbroken. My doctor said that it may be an issue with progesterone or some sort of hormonal abnormality. They sent everything to a lab to see if they can figure out what caused this miscarriage. I don't know how long it's going to be but I will be waiting. They said I lost a lot of blood during my surgery (1000 ml's) and that my hemoglobin is only 10.4....so I am tired all the time. I think I got a unit of blood at the hospital although I am not sure about that. I am going to have to ask when I go to my follow up appointment. What kind of testing can I do to figure this mess out? I don't even know where to go from here. It's not a getting pregnant issue....its sustaining a pregnancy. I am so lost!
Here is a very nasty vent part so don't read it if you don't want to:
I feeling like a complete failure. I don't know why it is that I struggle to have a child and you have people having children that don't take care of the one's they have. Why is it that I was a 30 year old crack head on welfare...that I would probably have 10 kids no problem. Why is it that people like us have to suffer. It's just not fair. My husband is being deployed in September and what if he doesn't come home.....this just stinks. I hate it that I have to go through this and I hate it that I have to explain to a 6 year old little girl why she isn't having a brother or sister. I was optimistic about this pregnancy and obviously that didn't work out for me.
Here is a very nasty vent part so don't read it if you don't want to:
I feeling like a complete failure. I don't know why it is that I struggle to have a child and you have people having children that don't take care of the one's they have. Why is it that I was a 30 year old crack head on welfare...that I would probably have 10 kids no problem. Why is it that people like us have to suffer. It's just not fair. My husband is being deployed in September and what if he doesn't come home.....this just stinks. I hate it that I have to go through this and I hate it that I have to explain to a 6 year old little girl why she isn't having a brother or sister. I was optimistic about this pregnancy and obviously that didn't work out for me.
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I hear you on the people who abuse their kids or do drugs or are unfit parents being super fertile, but those of us who take care of our bodies, treat children well, and are ready and willing to open our homes and our arms to another little one just struggle.
(((HUGS))) It just plain sucks. There are no other words.
I`m so sorry for your loss, i too was an october board member until my natural MC at 7 weeks.
I don't think its bitter, I think its natural to get furious when I hear about parents neglecting, abusing or even killing their children! Why are they given kids and not us? It's so unfair.
I am asking for the following tests:
Lupus & other auto immune diseases
Thyroid
Follicle count
Estradital
Follicle Stimulating Hormone (FSH) day 3
And I think that's it. If I remember anything else, I will let you know. Good luck with everything, and hang in there.
I am so sorry for your loss.
I'm so sorry for your loss. It is such an overwhelmingly devastating experience, so I completely understand your frustrations and bitterness. I even feel upset when good people around me get pregnant, let alone those are unwanting or undeserving, I think to myself " why couldn't this have been ME?!" I also would have been expecting an October baby, but experienced a natural miscarriage at about 7 weeks in March. I think I was especially bitter and angry the first week or two after the miscarriage, and then time helped to ease those feelings.
I haven't had experience with different types of fertility testing, but I do have thyroid issues (namely, the lack of a thyroid), so I know it's important (among many other factors) that the thryoid working properly in order to get and stay pregnant. Before I had my thyroid removed, I had a condition called Hashimoto's thyroiditis in which your body attacks the thyroid and produces thyroid antibodies...my doctors believe that this condition caused my first miscarriage, because Hashimoto's increases risk of miscarriage farely significantly. So the point of all that is that thyroid function is important in fertility as you probably already know. So that's a good area to get checked out :) Best of luck as you heal from your loss and in your future TTC journey.
-Lucia
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