Intro & Question

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Registered: 12-03-2007
Intro & Question
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Mon, 05-09-2011 - 9:44pm

(children, pg, & mc mentioned)

Hi ladies,

I've been lurking a few days and thought I'd introduce myself.

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Registered: 08-07-2007
Tue, 05-10-2011 - 5:34am
Hi, Casie. I'm sorry for your losses, but this is a great site with ladies who are very supportive.
My first thought about the link you posted was that you have to be wary of information posted on .coms or .htmls. It reads well, but they aren't reputable authoritative sources. When I was in grad school doing research, we were limited to .gov or .org because they are more scientifically reliable. That said, I did look at the website and I didn't see anything noticably wrong. But I did not see what you wrote as being too close genetically with the father? While studies definitely show parents who are related (incest) have a higher incidence of birth defects in their offspring, I am sure this is not your problem.
It is totally normal for your body to view the embryo as foreign. That is just your body doing what it is supposed to do. It is up to the healthy embryo to secrete the hormone that "tricks" mom's system into accepting it. If the embryo doesn't have the body chemistry to do that, there are likely other problems that wouldn't be compatible with life as well.
Sounds like I'm being insensitive? I'm really not. I know you are looking for reasons and (trust me) we all want that. 80-something percent of m/c in or before week 8 are due to chromosomal disorders. But not of you or dad. Remember each of your egg and his sperm went through meiosis and got only half of each of your genetics randomly like shuffling cards. Its the shuffle that goes wrong.
Did you get a D&C and genetic testing? I had my m/c when I was 33 (younger than AMA) and still they found my boy had trisomy 13. Its a one in 10,000 chance and it happened to us.
All that said, one of my dear friends could only get pg with that antiphospholipid infusion to reduce her immune response. But since you have had children w/ your DH, I don't think immune response is your problem...it would have failed every time.
GL finding your answers!
Chouli, 34; DH 45 Lilypie Pregnancy tickers
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Registered: 05-12-2008
Tue, 05-10-2011 - 10:10am

Hi, Casie, welcome to the board.

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Registered: 12-03-2007
Tue, 05-10-2011 - 11:49am

Thanks for the reply!

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Registered: 12-03-2007
Tue, 05-10-2011 - 11:57am
Thank you, Dustie. So sorry for your losses! I've been reading through posts here and it helps just knowing I'm not alone, even though I'd rather that none of us were here!
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Registered: 08-07-2007
Tue, 05-10-2011 - 11:59am
Definitely talk to your doctor about it. When we found out about the extra chromosome we immediately paid the $900 to make sure DH and I were genetically compatible. Whatever it takes, right?
Chouli, 34; DH 45 Lilypie Pregnancy tickers