Introduce yourself, tell us your story

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Introduce yourself, tell us your story
Sat, 09-10-2011 - 1:28pm

I think that lately, we've had some people move over to PAL and some new members find us, and I feel like we have some lurkers out there too. I think this is a good time for the lurkers to come out of hiding, and have everyone share their stories and get to know each other. I know how hard it can be to reach out after you've had a loss, but I have always found this board to be full of supportive, caring women. So let's get to know each other a bit.

Here's my story - warning - *****CHILD AND CURRENT PG MENTIONED*****

I'm Kelly, 36 years old, married to my husband Rob for 9 years. We've been together since college - so 16 years total.

I had my daughter, Lexi, at age 32. It was easy to get PG, a relatively uncomplicated pregnancy that gave me my little girl in September 2007. She's turning 4 on the 19th!! After we had Lexi, I had an IUD put in. When we were ready for No. 2 in 2010, I had it taken out on March 31, 2010. I got my BFP in early June - again, so easy, we were so lucky!!! I knew I was pregnant for a week (so about 4.5 weeks) when I started spotting. Went to see the doctor, couldn't see anything on the u/s yet, but my beta was 456.

Kelly, mom to 4 year old Lexi, wife to Rob TTC Number 2 since April 2010, with a loss in June 2010 at 4.5 weeks, and a loss in April 2011 at 8 weeks (possibly ectopic). Saw the RE in May 2011, we were moving forward with testing and an IUI when we
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Wed, 09-28-2011 - 8:49pm
Hi Alisha,

I am so sorry for your loss. There are several of us here who have been trying for varying lengths of time to bring home a bundle of joy. I hope that your stay here is short, chica.

I do have a couple of questions though- what kind of cycle tracking are you doing? Do you use OPK's, temping, etc? Have you been to your doctor to see if they have any insight?

Again, I hope you get your BFP soon chica. (((HUGS)))




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Wed, 09-28-2011 - 10:27pm
i've posted a few times on this board, but i'm still pretty new here. i'll try to post my story here soon.
but i had to ask... riverboatwed - ? i'm in the minneapolis area - super close to the mississippi! so i know it's a long river, but are you anywhere nearby? i went to a wedding reception on a river cruise a couple years ago on the mississippi - beautiful!


Expecting #1 (a boy!) on January 16, 2013

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Wed, 09-28-2011 - 10:36pm

We have the ovulation predictor that uses saliva. Its hard tracking and not making dtd seem like work. I have been to the doctor everything with me seemed fine, he said I have a tilted uterus but that it shouldnt affect my fertility. The doctor said just keep trying. My husband hasnt been seen yet we are hoping it doesnt come to that because its somewhat expensive. Praying and keeping my hopes up. I know that God knows whats best for me so I am working on being patient.

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Wed, 09-28-2011 - 10:37pm

Oh and thank you :)

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Thu, 09-29-2011 - 12:04pm

Noelsgal: I live in Madison, WI but we got married in LaCrosse, WI on the LaCrosse Queen on the

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Wed, 10-05-2011 - 11:26pm

abereth - I just joined this board and am in the process of m/cing (for the 2nd time). I have to admit that your post terrifies me. I was 9wks 2 days last week when I was told the baby's heart had stopped beating a day or two before. I was measuring 8 wks 6 days. The dr said that the m/c would be similar to labor, but not quite as intense. My question is - do you know how far along you were when the hearbeat stopped? I'm not sure I can handle full blown labor :/ I have one DS, and I hemmorrhaged with him. I have an appointment with my dr on Friday, so I hope now that nothing happens before then so that I can discuss my options a little more in detail. I had gone to my regular OB appointment when I found out - no spotting/cramping, so I was in complete shock and didn't ask many questions.


Siggy 05-24-10

Thank you Tan
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Tue, 10-11-2011 - 1:49am

I am new to this. I had a miscarriage in July with a D& C. It was incredibly difficult for me to go through. I thought I was around 9 weeks along, but the ultra sound revealed a blighted ovum. After the D & C in early July, I waited and waited for AF to come, but she never did. I went back to the doctor and he put me on progesterone to help induce a period, which finally came last Wenesday! While we are very excited to TTC again, I can't help but wonder how things will go. If you have any advice, I certainly would appreciate it. I know everyone says to relax, but it almost seems impossible. I don't want to go through all of the emotional ups and downs the last few months have brought me. I am in my mid/late 20's and many of my friends either have young children and/or are pregnant. It has been tough since our journey has been so different from theirs. I look forward to having someone to talk to who has been through some similar things



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Tue, 10-11-2011 - 3:56am

Welcome to the board MB. We've all been thru what you're goin thru on this board n we understand how difficult it is when friends manage to get pregnant n have their children with such ease when we have suffered so much along the way. I found out a friend of mine was pregnant just afer I found out I was, she went on to have a healthy baby boy but I m/c at 7 weeks. Not long after that another friend announced her pg. It's sooo hard to watch others doin what you want so bad anmd to pretend to be happy for them when every time you see a baby bump you just want to scream at the top of your lungs. I'm so sorry for your loss and I hope you find some encouragement and understandin here *hugs*

Lilypie Angel and Memorial tickers

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Wed, 10-19-2011 - 2:18pm

Jennifer, I'm so sorry, I just found this post.

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Wed, 10-19-2011 - 4:19pm

Hi, my name is Leah. Warning, child mentioned and TMI.

My husband and I are both 26, we have been together 9 years and married for 7. When we were 22, we decided to go of BCP and "see what happens". I missed my next AF and had a BFP. I had an easy pregnancy with no problems and now have a healthy and happy 4 year old. I had wanted to start TTC since my son was 9 months old, but due to circumstances my DH requested to wait. So I waited and waited and waited. Finally he felt that things were right and we could start TTC. Unfortunately, I have a chronic medical condition and my specialist said NO. He didn't think I was healthy enough. So again, I waited. Finally in Feb 2011 (2 years and 8 months after I wanted to start TTC) we got the all clear.

I had my IUD removed in March and again, missed my next AF and had a BFP. Everything was great. We had a heartbeat on u/s a little into week 6. I started spotting and having cramping in week 9. The u/s looked great, the baby was growing as expected and the heartbeat was great. Was told that some spotting was normal for some women. I went to my regular appointment in week 11. Heard the heartbeat with a Doppler, everything was great. Then in week 15 I started having spotting and cramping. I decided to go the ER, since it was the weekend and I needed the reassurance. They did an u/s and couldn't find a heartbeat. I was devastated. I was too far along to lose a baby. You don't lose a baby after you have a heartbeat. I was one of those misinformed women that believed if you made it to week 12 you were all clear. When we went to the hospital, I honestly hadn't even thought that I had miscarried. I choose to be induced and delivered my