Is it safe TTC right after MC

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Is it safe TTC right after MC
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Sat, 09-25-2010 - 3:25am
Hi ladies I am looking for some advice. I recently posted about just going thru my 3rd mc 1 week ago today. Well since then I have been doing alot of research to try and find answers as to what ALL possibilites could be going on, and what can be done to fix it. I then stumbled across the fact that you can get pregnant as early as 2 weeks after a early MC. I had my self doubting even wanting to try any time soon after I mc this time but once I saw that

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Sat, 09-25-2010 - 6:01am

They told you to wait 4 months? Wow. My doctor said wait until after the first AF. But maybe they told you that for a reason? If you've had three recently, perhaps your body needs a rest? I know - not what you want to hear. I understand feeling urgent about TTC again.



From my understanding the lining may not be thick enough or the uterus accepting enough to keep another little bean in that first cycle after. So while it may be easier to conceive so fast, the risk of losing it

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Sat, 09-25-2010 - 11:19am

There was an article written/study published just recently about how waiting really makes NO difference in regards to a healthy pregnancy after a m/c.

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Sat, 09-25-2010 - 2:41pm
Thanks for the replys. It means alot to know there are caring people in this world who know exactly what im going thru. THis site has brought me alot of comfort and relief that im not alone after all. I haven't had 3mc back to back one was at age 16 then 18 and now 24. But thats what he has always told me was to wait 4 months. but then again maybe he said that bc i was so young and shouldnt have been trying at all. Well with my first mc I didnt even know i was pregnant I just went to the hospital thinking something was wrong bc i was bleeding so bad and in alot of pain and thats when they told me I was pregnant (much to my surprise). But the other two my fiance and I TRIED. I noticed though that with each mc I had I was working, when i had my daughter i had quit my job bc 4 month prior i had mc at my job and didnt want to take a chance, And look i had a awesome pregnancy, full term healthy babygirl who weighed in at 9lb 7 oz. So I dont know. So many things are running thru my head, all the what ifs, or should have's yano. Just want to find out whats going on with my body and what I should do. We just want to give our little girl a little brother or sister. My heart broke when I told her what had happened, she has been so excited and even hugged and kissed my tummy every single night b4 she went to bed. When I told her the news she said " mommy im going to miss them very muches. Why did they leave your tummy." I almost lost it but held it together for her and said " well sweetie jesus needed more angels to watch over us,and they went to heaven..

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Sat, 09-25-2010 - 2:43pm

You CAN try again immediately after a loss, if you and your partner are both ready. Personally though, it has always taken me a month or two to be emotionally ready to TTC again. I dont agree with waiting FOUR months, as your dr said. Most say to wait one full cycle, just to make sure that your uterine lining has a chance to build up again, and for easier dating purposes.

There have been some recent studies done on whether or not it makes a difference to try again right away... I will search around a little more and post some links for you.



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Sat, 09-25-2010 - 2:54pm

FYI I found a link to the study that Cheryl mentioned, you can find a write-up of it here:
http://www.trying-to-conceive.com/news/new-study-says-conceiving-soon-after-miscarriage-is-safe/

And I just went back and read your second post.
"maybe he said that bc i was so young and shouldnt have been trying at all." That is pure baloney. Just because youre in your 20s doesnt mean that you shouldnt TTC!!!

As for not working when you had your DD, maybe you did have lower stress levels - but probably it was just a healthy pregnancy to begin with, for whatever reason. But please dont think that working somehow added to the cause of your miscarriages.



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Sat, 09-25-2010 - 3:21pm
I am so sorry to hear about your losses. I just experienced my first m/c in July at 11wks and my dr said we could go ahead and try again as soon as we were physically and emotionally ready. He said that they used to tell women to wait as long as 6 months before TTC again, but that there was really no medically backing/evidence to support that. He did ask us to wait until after the 1st AF just for dating purposes, but he said if it happened before that no biggie either! I hope you and your fiance have a happy and healthy pregnancy soon!!



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Sat, 09-25-2010 - 4:30pm
Thanks for the link it did seem to my mind at ease about trying again asap. But only time will tell if i will be ready so soon. Just going to take it one day at a time and we will see. THanks kate for the words of encouragement it means alot. I am also so sorry for your loss. Just keep your head up and things will get better i promise. Just keep ttc your lil bundle of joy i know i will.

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Sun, 09-26-2010 - 1:55am

First off, I'm so sorry for your losses! We all know how hard it is to go through. So glad you found us, even though the circumstances suck!

Second, I've heard so many people say that their docs told them to wait X amount of months. I think that it's personal (doctor) preference. For myself, I was ready to try as soon as the bleeding stopped. For medical reasons we couldn't try, but I sure wanted to. My doctor pretty much told me to wait to try again until I could mention the m/c without tearing up (seriously).

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Sun, 09-26-2010 - 6:36am

Hi Krystal,



Sorry to read of your losses. I absolutely empathise with you, after my first m.c my first q to my doctor was "when can we try again?". I felt so ready to start trying and I would have *hated* if he said wait 4 months! And I wouldn't have waited!



Luckily we had an awesome doctor who said something along the lines of:



"If you're both ready in every way, there is no reason to wait. Your body won't conceive until it's ready (lining, hormone adjustments, etc). Just do what you feel is best. If you do have the misfortune of miscarrying a susequent pregnancy, there is no evidence to point to the fact it was or was not caused by falling pregnant so soon after the first."



We found his perspective very comforting and in line with what we thought at the time. We TTC straight away. I didn't want to waste any time and regret missing that magic cycle. I felt the sooner we started the sooner we were on our path to out BFP.



After this most recent m/c the nurse asked us to wait a few cycles. Everyone in the medical profession has a different opinion, as pp said.



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Sun, 09-26-2010 - 7:24am

No, I don't think waiting

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