Is it time to stop?

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Registered: 05-31-2011
Is it time to stop?
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Tue, 05-31-2011 - 12:16am
I had a miscarriage in October. It was extremely difficult as you all know. I had already heard the heartbeat so it was a total shock. I was expecting my 5th child which brings me to my question. I'm extremely blessed to have 4 healthy children and I am well aware of that but I just can't seem to move on from this miscarriage...am I being "greedy" by wanting another baby? I keep trying to tell myself i should stop and be happy with the 4 I have (which I am) but I can't seem to convince my heart what my head is saying...am I being greedy? Does anyone have experience with this? Everyone I have talked to has had their miscarriage with baby #1 or 2 and has then gone on to have healthy. Hildren? Am I insane for wanting to do whatever it takes to have my 5th???? I took a test on mothers day weekend and it was positive ( all 3!) but I just didn't feel right...I took a test that Monday and it was neg and then AF came shortly after:( is this my sign that I should just stop? Please help:(
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Registered: 07-28-2009
Tue, 05-31-2011 - 5:58am
There is NO sign that you should stop, honey. If your heart wants another child than go ahead and do that. I would only be concerned about one thing; make sure you actually DO want another child and that A) you're not just trying to fill the deep hole your m/c left you with - a lot of women feel a void and like that they HAVE to replace that baby and B) that you're not just wanting another baby because having children is what you know that it's been many years since you *haven't* had a baby in the house. I hope that makes sense, I am never able to explain that without it seeming to come out wrong...
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Tue, 05-31-2011 - 9:31am

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Tue, 05-31-2011 - 2:12pm
HI,
I feel this way sometimes too because I have 5 children (but have lost 5 children, as well), but the heart wants what it wants...it's really hard to fight that.

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Registered: 07-31-2000
Wed, 06-01-2011 - 1:24am
Pregnancy mentioned towards the end......

I had a miscarriage on baby # 6. It was devastating. I had the same exact feelings that you did. When it comes to having kids, I know I've been very blessed. Despite my children, the miscarriage was an awful experience. I don't think it matters how many you have, the loss still hurts. I guess I can only equate it to the thought of losing one of my living children. If I lost the first one, that loss wouldn't feel any better because I had the other 4. I don't think anything would have made me stop wanting a baby, or wanting to be pregnant again.. It doesn't mean I was unhappy with 5 - I just knew someone was missing. I visit this board often because that experience really touched me. There are so many ladies on here who I am praying will get their miracle. I was fortunate enough to get pregnant 4 months later. My miracle arrived on April 10th. They are all miracles no matter how many you are blessed with :)

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Mon, 06-06-2011 - 7:00pm

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Mon, 06-06-2011 - 7:36pm
Amen, Beebes....to all of it! :)