m/c after 22 months of ttc

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Registered: 04-01-2011
m/c after 22 months of ttc
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Fri, 04-01-2011 - 11:55pm

My husband and I finally got our BFP on his birthday (3/18) after 22 long months of trying!

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Registered: 09-09-2008
Sat, 04-02-2011 - 2:53am

I'm so sorry for your loss. It is truly devastating to lose a baby that you so deseperately want. It's completely natural at this point, so soon after your miscarriage, to long for and miss that feeling of being pregnant and having your baby inside of you. I know for some people that doesn't go away for a long time. But time does seem to make the pain and sadness less intense.

You may have already read my post, but I lost our baby 3 weeks ago at about 7 1/2 weeks. Emotionally, I feel like I've come a long way in those 3 weeks, from feeling angry, frustrated, depressed to now feeling somewhat at peace with what happened. I do think about this baby all the time...and during this time period it's been hard to hear other people's good pregnancy news. But I think that's quite natural too. I wish you the best in your healing process! You've come to a great community.

-Lucia

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Registered: 12-30-2006
Sat, 04-02-2011 - 6:56am

I'm so sorry for your loss.

There's nothing anyone can say to make the pain go away, but having a community of people who've been through their own losses makes it easier to bear. This is a great group of women who know what you're going through, and are willing to try to help you over the rough patches.

You may find it helpful to go to a local (IRL) support group. Many hospitals have such groups, and you can find them by calling the hospitals.

In the meantime, I can suggest that you don't give in to the urge to stay in bed and pull the covers up over your head. Get out as much as possible. Have dates with your husband. Go on some "girls nights out" with your friends. Even better, get involved in a cause you care about. Organize a

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Registered: 05-12-2008
Sat, 04-02-2011 - 9:15am

I am so sorry for your loss.

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Registered: 05-11-2010
Sat, 04-02-2011 - 10:08am
Aww, honey, I'm so sorry. I can only imagine how much more it hurts having been TTC for a whole 22 months prior. It's okay to be completely devastated . . . any of us would be. Just try to take it a day at a time and be patient with yourself as you grieve. We'll all be here for you.
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Registered: 06-27-2006
Sat, 04-02-2011 - 10:26am
I'm so very sorry for your loss! I know how you feel. My DH and I tried for just over 2 years to get pg and finally after 25 months, we got our BFP and we were SO elated. And then 12 weeks later, we were devastated to find that our baby had died at 10w6d. (((HUGS))) You're not alone. I hope that you will come here and find the support you need to heal and when you're ready, I hope you will also find the support you need to begin TTC again.
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Registered: 09-24-2004
Sat, 04-02-2011 - 11:05am
Welcome and I'm so sorry for your loss. :( The sadness and frustration of a m/c is even worse when you've been TTC for so long. (I completely understand that!) We're all here for you and please visit our folder down in the TTC 9+ months section. You'll be in good company. (((HUGS)))
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Sat, 04-02-2011 - 4:03pm
I'm so, so sorry, sweetie. {{{{{HUGS}}}}} I can't imagine trying for so long, only to lose your little one. I hope your stay here is shorter and you finally get to hold another baby.
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Registered: 04-13-2010
Sat, 04-02-2011 - 4:22pm

I'm so sorry for your loss. It really is devestating to try for so long. You've found a wonderful group of very supportive women. Many of the women here can completely feel your frustration in TTC for so long. It's scary to think that you've just missed your chance, so scary. Infertility is not fair, and to add a loss on top of infertility, is just so wrong.

I hope you'll find the support you need here, hopefully your stay will be short.


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Registered: 10-05-2006
Sat, 04-02-2011 - 8:30pm

I am so sorry. I know how it feels to be trying forever (we have been trying since 2006) and were so happy to finally get pregnant in June 2010 only to lose it to an ectopic in July. We are still waiting for our miracle and it is hard playing the waiting game. I am so sorry that you have to go through this because it is tough. Hang in there. I know it is hard. Hugs........

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Sat, 04-02-2011 - 10:46pm

Thank you to everyone who responded.

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