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Sun, 01-23-2011 - 6:28pm

Hi My name is Lindsey im new to this board.

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Registered: 12-21-2010
Mon, 01-24-2011 - 11:55am

Lindsey, I'm so sorry for your loss.

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Registered: 11-02-2005
Mon, 01-24-2011 - 4:37pm

thank u for all your kind words.

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Registered: 07-28-2009
Mon, 01-24-2011 - 4:50pm

Ya know, waiting three months is kind of the "old school" way of thinking and some dr's are just more comfortable staying inside that box but most of us here on this board (and we have a lot of experience between us) agree that waiting until A) you're healed physically and emotionally - that means no more bleeding or pain and B) for AF to come and go is plenty of time to wait. So it sounds like you're ready to go emotionally and hopefully the dr will tell you everything looks good physically in Feb so then all you'll have left to do is wait for AF. You COULD start TTC before AF but we all kind of agree that is a bad idea. It just complicates things for you and will end up stressing you out.

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Registered: 04-13-2010
Mon, 01-24-2011 - 7:25pm
Hi, I'm sorry for your loss. I had a d&c with my first miscarriage at 9w4d, I don't remember bleeding for very long afterwards, however, my period didn't come back on it's own, I had to use medicine to get it back. It's never really been normal since then. We started trying after the first AF. I got pregnant again 7 years later and miscarried at 9w6d naturally and bleed hard for a long time with lots of pain. It took us about 3 months or so to start trying after that loss because it was physically so painful. I got pregnant again 3 years later and my little boy was stillborn during the 35th week. It was a vaginal birth and we were told to wait a year before trying again. When I asked why, I was told they felt that was best emotionally, I said physically how long do I have to wait, they said as soon as I felt ready I could try physically, and we've been trying again since April.

Basically, ask 15 different doctors and you'll get 15 different responses. I agree with Michelle, wait for your first AF and after she comes, whenever you feel ready, go for it.

Good luck to you.


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Registered: 06-29-2010
Tue, 01-25-2011 - 5:51pm
Welcome, I'm so sorry for your loss.
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Registered: 12-30-2006
Tue, 01-25-2011 - 6:54pm

Welcome to the board, Lindsey.

First I want to say that I'm so very sorry for your loss. I have a friend IRL who's experienced one loss at 35 weeks and then 2 at 15 weeks. I don't think her doctor told her to wait more than one cycle to try again. Both of the babies I lost stopped growing at 6w1d so, though I did have D&C's, it wasn't in the second trimester so I don't have first-hand experience.

Please continue to post here. You'll find the women to be very helpful and understanding, and great at "listening" to you when you just need to cry or vent.

--Wendy
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Registered: 01-25-2011
Tue, 01-25-2011 - 7:54pm
I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my son at 22wks 5days through labor and delivery on April 16th, 2010 and then we got pregnant again in October and we lost this one at 13wks 5 days.....I had to have a d and c and the doctor told us to wait 1 cycle and then we can start trying again. Not sure if were going to wait, but idk yet we waited last time and ended up miscarrying.
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Registered: 01-25-2011
Tue, 01-25-2011 - 7:56pm
im sorry we lost the newest angel on 1-18-11 and had the d and c on the 19th.
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Registered: 06-27-2006
Tue, 01-25-2011 - 10:26pm
(((HUGS))) I'm so sorry that you have to join us here. I didn't have a 2nd trimester miscarriage, but I was so close. I was 12w3d when I lost my little angel in June. I had a D&C because they were saying that the baby was too big to pass completely and naturally. We were told that once my bleeding stopped (which took forever for me, but I think that was because of negligence on the doctor's part, so totally unrelated to my actual pg loss), we could try again once I got my first AF after my miscarriage. Definitely ask your doctor what their recommendation would be when you go in for your follow-up on Feb. 3rd. (((HUGS)))
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Registered: 03-25-2010
Wed, 01-26-2011 - 7:51am

Hi, Lindsey,

I wanted to say welcome and give ((HUGS)). So sorry for your loss. I can't answer your question though because my m/c was in the first T and was natural. It sounds like you have good answers from other ladies. This is a great board. I'm glad you found us.

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