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Fri, 07-22-2011 - 1:37pm

this is all still really fresh, as i'm just dealing with a M/C this week.

Diane

Expecting #1 (a boy!) on January 16, 2013

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In reply to: noelsgal
Fri, 07-22-2011 - 2:17pm

I am so sorry for your loss. You have found a great group of ladies here.

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In reply to: noelsgal
Fri, 07-22-2011 - 2:29pm

First off, I want to say how sorry I am for your loss. I'm glad you found this board- there are a lot of women on here who've been through similar situations and can give you advice and empathy. It's hard for anyone who's never experienced a pregnancy loss to understand how emotionally devastating it can be. The physical aspect isn't any fun, either.

I've had two missed m/c, one at 8 weeks, the other at 9 weeks, but both times the baby had stopped growing at 6w1d. Both times I opted for the D&E because my body was showing no signs of taking care of the situation itself. The surgeries themselves weren't bad- I was knocked out, and the physical recovery was fairly easy. The emotional aspect of going in pregnant (albeit with a deceased baby)

--Wendy
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In reply to: noelsgal
Fri, 07-22-2011 - 5:35pm

Hey there and welcome.

My mc is still very fresh too. I officially passed everything end of June. My bleeding resolved fairly quickly after that and hcg went down pretty quick. I wanted to jump back in quickly bc we had been TTC for 1 1/2 yrs before the mc and being so close to success after so long, was devasting.

If i was anxious to get pregnant before, i dare say i am now desperate!!!

I ovulated approx. 3 weeks after the mc and I am currently waiting to see! Good luck and I am very sorry for your loss. I hope its the only own you have to experience.

Britney

Britney (28) and Robert (31) TTC x 9 months with #1 Delivered a beautiful healthy daughter, Shalynn on 5/23/08 Been TTC since Feb 2010. MC 6/27/11
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In reply to: noelsgal
Fri, 07-22-2011 - 6:12pm
I'm so sorry for your loss, but glad you found our board. It's a great group of supportive, knowledgeable women.

Your doctor should monitor you with a u/s and b/w to make sure everything passes. Once your HCG levels are below 5, your body should operating pretty normally again. Sometimes after a m/c it takes a few cycles for your body to get back on track, but it's different for everyone.

As for trying again - most doctors will ask you to wait at least one cycle, mostly for dating purposes. Personally, I think you should start TTC again when you feel emotionally and physically ready!
Kelly, mom to 4 year old Lexi, wife to Rob TTC Number 2 since April 2010, with a loss in June 2010 at 4.5 weeks, and a loss in April 2011 at 8 weeks (possibly ectopic). Saw the RE in May 2011, we were moving forward with testing and an IUI when we
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Registered: 07-28-2009
In reply to: noelsgal
Fri, 07-22-2011 - 7:37pm
I'm so sorry about your loss :( I agree that you should jump back into TTC whenever you feel emotionally ready as long as you're not bleeding more than light spotting and you're not in any physical pain. As far as the chromosome issue, yes, that is most commonly the cause of m/c although like Wendy said, there is no way to know that for sure without testing the fetal tissue.
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In reply to: noelsgal
Fri, 07-22-2011 - 8:52pm

I am sorry for your need of this site but happy that you found it. It is real tough going through a MC and I feel for you. I also lost my first which make things hard (ok, it is never easy...).

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In reply to: noelsgal
Sat, 07-23-2011 - 10:06am
Hi! I'm sorry that you have had to join us, but I'm glad you found us, because this place is full of support. I had a D&C with my 2nd miscarriage last summer (late June) and after bleeding for an additional couple weeks, I went in again and after being talked down to about "bleeding can last for several weeks" they did an internal exam and the doctor's face got that stupid look on it like, "oh crap, she's right - this ISN'T normal and she's still completely dilated" (I left that doctor's office for oh, so many reasons that I won't go into right now). They sent me immediately in for an ultrasound that showed that I still had tissue. They put me on a medication (Methergine) to help clear out the tissue and had me return in a week to have a repeat u/s. After a week, there was still tissue in there, but there was less and my uterus was finally starting to shrink down. I bled for probably another week or so and then I stopped bleeding for a bit and about 2 weeks later, my first AF came. I believe I got rid of the remaining tissue during that AF. It was heavy, clotty, and very gross in every way. So, I would talk to your doctor if you don't notice anything else passing with the medication. I wouldn't expect everything to happen right away within 4 hours of starting the medication. It might take a few days to get going. But, if you don't notice anything happening at all (increase in bleeding, etc) after probably 2-3 days, I would give a call to the doctor and let them know that nothing's happening on the medication and they might have to do a D&C. It's not safe to have that tissue just sitting in there and you could still be dilated, which is a great way to have a wide open door for infection. Did they put you on an antibiotic along with the med for helping to complete the miscarriage? That's what my doctor did because I had been walking around for over 2 weeks with a completely dilated cervix (and he had given us the "go-ahead" 2-3 days after my D&C to resume intercourse - which we obviously didn't do, since I was still bleeding and bleeding indicates that things are still open and could cause infection).

Anyway, take it easy, keep taking the medication, and I hope that you don't end up needing the D&C. Keep us posted!
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