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Sun, 03-13-2011 - 9:57pm

Hello!

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Registered: 10-05-2006
In reply to: trinae75276
Thu, 03-17-2011 - 7:47pm
You found a good place for support. These women are awesome. I am sorry you had to find us because nobody ever wants to go through this. hugs.......
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Registered: 04-13-2010
In reply to: trinae75276
Tue, 03-15-2011 - 7:53pm
welcome, you've found a great group of women. I'm so sorry for your loss.

I totally know how you feel with no one knowing how you feel - I had my first miscarriage nearly 12 years ago, and until this past month, no one that I know of in my friends or family had experienced a miscarriage. It makes you feel so different.

It's totally normal to not be comfortable around other people's kids. 5 years after our first loss and after 4 years dealing with infertility, it seemed that nearly my entire family had fallen pregnant - all of them except for me. It was so hard for me to be around all of that, we actually moved 1800 miles away! Reason was that I just couldn't be there anymore. There ended up being like an ungodly number of babies born in the family that year - like 10 or 15 or something (Amy, do you know that number for sure?) And it wasn't until just 3 years ago that we finally moved back. And I can't tell you how many family kids later as I have stopped counting. All I know is I want a baby up on my grandma's wall who will have a changing picture.

I have good days and bad days - some days I LOVE little kids/babies - other days dealing with other people's kids makes me want to slit my wrist. It's all normal - all the feelings of, well, jealousy - they're all normal.

Just know that when no one else is there, or no one else understands, we are here, and we totally understand.


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Registered: 12-21-2010
In reply to: trinae75276
Tue, 03-15-2011 - 5:02pm

Welcome to the board.

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In reply to: trinae75276
Tue, 03-15-2011 - 11:01am
I'm sorry to hear about your loss :( I hope you find comfort here on your TTC journey and that you get a sticky little one very soon. It is very hard to hear about those around you getting pregnant when you miss your LO (little one) and want to be pregnant so badly.
~Katie
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Registered: 06-29-2010
In reply to: trinae75276
Mon, 03-14-2011 - 9:58pm
I and welcome. Sorry for your loss. I think you will get a lot of support and advice here.
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Registered: 03-04-2010
In reply to: trinae75276
Mon, 03-14-2011 - 6:26pm

Welcome to the board! I'm sorry for your loss. It is so hard to hear about other pregnancies/babies...especially right after a loss. You've come to the right place for support!

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Registered: 02-24-2011
In reply to: trinae75276
Mon, 03-14-2011 - 6:12pm
So sorry for your loss :( I'm glad you have found the support of all the wonderful ladies here!
Me: Amy Married to Dh since 2002 Mommy to Donovan, Quinten, Lainey, angel baby 02/11
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In reply to: trinae75276
Mon, 03-14-2011 - 3:40pm

Hi, welcome to the board.

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Registered: 05-11-2010
In reply to: trinae75276
Mon, 03-14-2011 - 1:29pm
Welcome to the board. You're definitely in the right place if you've been having a hard time finding support and understanding elsewhere. Like Michelle, I can definitely relate to how you're feeling about your SIL's new pregnancy. When I was pregnant, I knew many other women who were also pregnant . . . the closest to me being one of my best friends, my cousin's wife, and one of my aunts. After my loss, I fell out of contact with my bf . . . didn't even go to her shower. Didn't go the other showers, either, and still haven't even seen baby pics now that everyone has had their babies. It's just too tough. I think everybody understood . . . despite never having the experience of pregnancy loss themselves. I hope your in-laws can try to understand, too.
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Registered: 07-28-2009
In reply to: trinae75276
Mon, 03-14-2011 - 8:36am
Hi, there. I know what you mean about not being able to talk to your BIL and SIL. Hearing about someone else getting pregnant is by far the WORST for me. I mean tears and the whole nine yards. I almost walk around terrified at who is going to pop up next. Feels like I am walking through a minefield sometimes.
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