New here after losing an October '11 baby

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Registered: 09-09-2008
New here after losing an October '11 baby
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Wed, 03-16-2011 - 9:41pm

Hello there. I've been lurking for a few days, and I just have to say I've found it so comforting to know that I'm not the only person facing this right now, although I don't wish it on anyone and hope for all the best for all of you. I just miscarried this past friday at about 7 1/2 weeks. I was scheduled to have an ultrasound this week to help date this pregnancy because I have a very irregular cycle, so I only knew what week I conceived in, but couldn't pinpoint it any more specifically.

My husband and I have one son who is 21 months old so we were excited to start trying for a little brother or sister for him. We were thrilled to be pregnant and were devastated to realize that our little October baby will no longer be. I actually began spotting last thursday evening, then by late thursday night, I had pretty bad cramping, so I knew deep down that things weren't right. By friday afternoon, I was bleeding intensely, with strong labor-like cramps. I definitely know I lost the baby that night, and have been experiencing moderate to heavy bleeding with some cramping since then. My doctor is just measuring my HCG levels for now, we both think that I've had a complete miscarriage, so hopefully I won't need any interventions to aid in the process.

This is my second miscarriage. The first time I miscarried was July 4 2008 at 4 to 5 weeks, so, for me, it felt more painful now because I was further along and felt so much more attached already.

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{{{{{HUGS}}}}} Lucia. I'm so sorry for your losses. I hope your stay is short here, but we'll be here for you, no matter what.
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Registered: 07-29-2003

I know the feeling, I iscarried lat monday the 14th and had heavy bleeding until friday when it slowed, saturday it had stopped.

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Registered: 05-12-2008

I am so sorry for your loss.

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I'm sorry you are going through another miscarriage. They are painful no matter when they happen. And I know how you feel about wanting the "perfect" spacing between your kids. I'm there - we wanted our kids to be abut 5-6 years apart. Right now my DD is 8 and even if we got pg this month, they would be about 9 years apart. *sigh* Our timing is not always what is in the plans. I hope that your stay here is short!
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Registered: 09-09-2008

Katja, Thank you for your advice. And I'm so sorry for your loss.

I didn't have my HCG levels measured

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Registered: 02-24-2011
So sorry for your loss :( I pray that your body heals and you have a sticky bfp as soon as you're ready!
Me: Amy Married to Dh since 2002 Mommy to Donovan, Quinten, Lainey, angel baby 02/11
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Welcome to the board. I'm so sorry for your loss. I know it's a terrible feeling. I hope you can stat trying again soon!!
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Registered: 07-29-2003

welcome, i too lost an october 2011 baby I had my misacarriage monday at would have been 7weeks and 3 days.

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Registered: 01-30-2011
I'm sorry that you have to come and join us, but the ladies here are pretty great.
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Registered: 09-09-2008

Thank you all for your warm welcome and support. It's so nice to be truly understood. My husband has had a hard time with this miscarriage so we've been able to lean on eachother. But none of my close friends have children, have tried for children, or have ever experienced a miscarriage, so while their support means the world to me, it's also good to have a place to go where people have had similar experiences. Thank you all!

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