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New Here Intro
Sat, 05-21-2011 - 12:27am

Hi, my name is Shannon (27), my DH is Jeff (30) and I have a 2 year old DS. I am hoping that this is the right place for me to be.

I started spotting two weeks ago and was sent for an ultrasound I was almost 8 weeks along, and the baby was only measuring 5. I had another ultrasound this past wednesday I should have been 9 wks and the baby was measuring 6. The next day I miscarried.

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Sat, 05-21-2011 - 4:03am

First Off I am very sorry for loss it does not matter when you lost you still lost and you feel that pain!!!

You have came to a VERY GREAT GROUP of women that have been where you are plus more we are all here to support you! And everything yuou said makes Perfect Since I have had 3 miscarriages one @ 8 weeks baby measured 5 weeks 6 days Second baby measured 7 weeks I should have been 9 weeks and this last one was my sweet baby kloie that I carried till 19 weeks and lost her due to a incomplete Cervix, So no you are not alone and we will support you on your TTC journey all the way!!!


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Sat, 05-21-2011 - 7:22am
Shannon I'm so sorry for your loss. Jessica is right this is an amazing group of women you've found here. When you do decide to try good luck. And in the mean time (((hugs))l
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Sat, 05-21-2011 - 9:43am
I'm so sorry for your loss, Shannon! (((HUGS)))

You've definitely come to the right place. And only you and your DH can decide when is the right time to TTC again. For right now, lean on us to help you through some of your grief. Now is the time to focus on healing your body and your mind. THEN, once you're in a better place, you can focus on the TTC aspect of things. We're here to help you through both your grief and then your decision to TTC again. This board is filled with wonderful women who come from all different places in life and in TTC journeys, but I know that I've gotten some wonderful support from everyone who has responded to any of my posts. :)
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Sat, 05-21-2011 - 10:59am
Welcome, I am so very sorry for your loss. You have found the perfect place. This is a great group of very supportive women.

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Sat, 05-21-2011 - 11:19am
Hi Shannon and welcome, I am so sorry for your loss, it is very hard and crying is part of the healing process, I still cry when I let myself think about our baby we lost and it has been 14 months now, BUT it does get easier and the pain gets less and less unfortunately we really are alone in this because no one understands how devastating an early loss really is for a mom. You will be ready to TTC again but give yourself this time to heal, both mentally and physically. The dr. took tissue samples from the baby and from you so the pathologist can do testing to see why you had the loss, it will show if it was chromosomal or something else that caused the m/c. It will be good info to have. Please come here often and talk as much as you need to, we have all been there and understand, these girls are the best. Hug....
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Mon, 05-23-2011 - 5:28pm

Welcome to the board, Shannon.

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Tue, 05-24-2011 - 6:39pm
I Am so sorry for your loss. HUGS!!!!!
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Wed, 05-25-2011 - 7:15am

Hi Shannon.

I'm so sorry for your loss. Your experience sounds just like mine, and it is terribly hard. Most people who've never been through a miscarriage cannot understand what it's like and expect us to just "move on". It is very hard for our DH/partners to get what we're going through, as the baby wasn't inside them with the bond that instantly forms from such an intimate connection.

If you're not ready to TTC, then don't do it. Getting a BFP after a m/c is exciting...and scary as heck! If you're not ready to make that leap, it will just be that more scary.

Keep posting here. Read other peoples' stories. Get to know us.

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Fri, 05-27-2011 - 12:59am

I'm so sorry for your loss Shannon! I hope that your recent D&C went well and that your on your way to a smooth recovery. (I saw on a different post that they decided to send you in to get the procedure done).